Post # 1
Hi Bees .. I’m one week away from my wedding day and I’m am so stressed out. I just found out my aunt is coming from overseas and was super excited. I asked my unemployed sister to pick her up from the airport and she said no. She has yoga at that time. She then suggested to throw cabfare atthe situation. My aunt hasn’t had a vacation in 25 years and my family hasn’t seen in her for about 15 years. I was a kid last time I saw her. My sister’s response upset me and I wrote her an email saying I need all the help I can get this next week and she hasn’t even offered .. yes she is a bridesmaid and has been the least helpful one of the bunch. She started emailing me horribly meanm things. Now she’s telling me how I hate all my bridesmaids and how I talk spoken behind their backs. That’s not true. These girls are my best friends and yes all friendships have their ups and downs. Now she’s threatening to send each of the bridesmaids emails that I’m a horrible person and that I don’t appreciate them and that I’m a back stabber!!!! What do I do? Should I just drop her at this point and talk to my bridesmaids before she does this? She’s absolutely ruining my big day and I and everyone else around me has worked so hard to make this day beautiful only for her to ruin it this way!! I needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for reading.
Post # 3
Don’t worry about your sister. She seems very immature, and I’m sure you other BMs know that about her.
As far as your Aunt goes, do you have any close family friends or can one of your other BMs pick her up from the airport? If not, you may need to eat up some lunch time to pick her up.
Post # 4
Ack! Your sister is obviously having a hard time with your upcoming wedding.
Don’t worry about what she might do – just try your best to not engage in a battle with her. It’s the last thing you need right now.
If she continues to email you mean things – don’t even waste your time opening them – seriously! Just leave them alone. When you see your sister – try your best to just put on a polite face and leave it be. Don’t get drawn into her issues!!!
As for your BM’s – you don’t need to do pre-damage control. They know you and they likely know your sister is prone to this type of thing (I’m guessing here – but I can’t imagine this is the first time she’s done something like this).
I’d also count on your sister NOT being able to pickup extra duties and because of that – stop asking her to do things. I actually cringed when you wrote to her after she told you she couldn’t do it…. but, all that said – she will only ruin your big day if you allow her to. I know she’s not making it easy to ignore, but the sooner you can embrace the wonderful people that are supporting you (including your aunt!!) and leave your sister to stew in her misery – the better off you’ll be.
I’m sorry she’s being so difficult… 🙁
Post # 5
Thanks bees. I’m still really upset, but I don’t want her poor behavior to ruin my day.
Post # 6
First, so sorry that this is happening to you.Don’t worry people know you and won’t believe a bunch of made up drama.
You should contact your bridesmaids and let them know that you’ve been having trouble with your sister (and take a moment to thank them for their support). Then work with them and maybe other family members in the area to find someone to pick up your aunt.