(Closed) Out of money for wedding …VENT..Help Please!

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Would you have time to take a part-time side job on the weekends only/evenings? 

Looking at what you have left, what I would consider doing: asking flower girl/ring bearer’s parents if they could provide their outfits (and allow them to pick out something in your wedding colors on their own), gently let your bridesmaids know you love them but their gifts will be a little late (after the wedding) when you have time to recover financially, lighting – ask yourself if this is REALLY necessary, and favors – I’d eliminate them all together. 

I know this is a terrible thing to suggest, but would your venue allow a credit card payment for the balance?  I mean if worse came to worse, it would be better to use a credit card/personal loan then to lose everything.  Just a thought.

I’m sending you lots of good luck thoughts!! 

Post # 4
364 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

skip the favors too, they won’t be missed.

maybe get “stand-in” rings for cheap for the ceremony and wait until you’ve recovered financially to get your permanent bands?

Post # 5
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m sorry you are going through this, but you are not the first one who has had this problem.  I guess my solutions depend on hwo much money you owe…i.e. if you still owe $10,000…well, I think you need to seriously re-think some of your costs and figure out where to cut back.

But if you owe $1000 or less – one option would be to put it on a credit card – not ideal, but if you have no CC debt, it should be easy to pay off within a few months after the wedding.

Or – can you sell items?  Do you have old gold jewelry that you could part with?  What about stuff on craig’s list?  When I was a grad student and needed a few extra $$ (like, less than $100) to see me through the month, I would sell items I was no longer using…like my papasan chair, my exercise ball, etc.  I even sold my entertainment center (and just used an old table I had for my TV).

Can you put a temp hold on your internet and/or cable service?  This should net you a few extra $$ in your budget.

Another option….can you sell plasma?  (Not ideal, I know……)  But (again, as a poor grad student) I sold my plasma twice a week for two months to buy an Ipod.

Or – do you belong to a church community?  Can you ask if anyone needs to hire help around the house?  When my dad got laid off, he found temp work fixing up this lady’s house and replacing her barn doors.

Good luck!


Post # 7
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I second getting a part-time gig to help with extra money.  But I wouldn’t bother with applying for something.  Do you have any skills that you can sell like doing hair, babysitting, dog walking?  I used to make quite the killing in college blowing out hair for $15 – 20 a pop.  You’d be surprised how many people want straight hait but can’t do it themselves.

Post # 10
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree with Jody23.  Your bridesmaids will understand.  Talk to them and write each of them a nice card as a gift for now.  If the ring bearer’s parents can’t buy/rent/borrow a suit, could you skip having them in the wedding?  I say skip the favors all together-I don’t think people will care, many won’t even notice.  Could you buy inexpensive wedding bands or even stand ins for now and upgrade later?  The most important thing right now is getting money payed to the venue.  I don’t know if it’s catering/venue combined, but maybe you could skip on one of the appetizers or downgrade the meal to bring down the bill.  Don’t worry-you will figure it out!  Pay the venue first, then number each thing as a priority and buy them as you can and skip what you can.

Post # 11
2786 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sell everything you can on CL…clothes you don’t wear (especially kid’s clothes), furniture, electronics, jewelry…everything you can get your hands on to sell-do it!

Post # 12
1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@VegasSukie:  Oh good ideas!  I pay people $50+ for them to watch my dog overnight (let my dog stay in their home).  Side jobs like these can end up bringing in some good cash!

 @PrettySedity:  How cute!  Well at least your son will be well-dressed.  πŸ™‚  Again, hate to even say this, but worst case scenario, since neither of you have credit cards, you should consider opening one for the balance (if the venue allows).  There are so many cards out there that offer 0% interest for the first year.  So you’d have a year to pay it off with no fees or interest.   Last case… don’t do this unless you HAVE to.  Praying, too!  πŸ™‚

Post # 13
1340 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@PrettySedity:  Look at unorthodox places for RB/FG clothes. We bought ours from Kohls. Flower Girl dress was $30 and Ring Bearer four piece suit was $15 on clearance.

Stand in rings are a great idea. It sounds dumb, but WalMart sells sterling bands for $15–FI and I wore ours in the summer when we are at camp and don’t want to wear our pretty rings. Zales also has pretty silver and sapphire rings that might be able to work as stand ins.

Cut the favors, no one will miss them.

Tell the bridesmaids there gifts are coming, I think they’ll understand, or at least they should if they’re friends.

It’s always the little things that add up to a lot. We paid off our big things first and are now left trying to sort out the little things.

Post # 14
12878 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d look carefully into using credit cards — most of my vendors tack on huge fees for using them (my caterer had a 4.5% additional charge for any credit card payments).  Just FYI.

Definitely cut the favors, standin rings, explain to your BMs and promise them a fun night out on you once you’ve recovered the cost of the wedding.  Contact your vendors and explain the situation, see if you can cut things out to lower the prices.  Cut back the number of hours of photography, and honestly, I’d cut the videographer all together (unless your friendor is giving you a fantastic deal). 

Post # 15
1833 posts
Buzzing bee

you have gotten some great leads so far. I would check out the ‘gigs’ section of craigs list, there are often times people who need a few hours of manual labor for cash, either you or your Fiance could do this easy if its just the right gig. 

1.odd jobs – gigs section of craigs list

2. sell unwanted items and things that you know you are going to get replacements of after the wedding anyways

3. cut cable, internet, and downgrade cell phones (my cell carrier lets me down grade to just text/calling plan for a month if cash is tight and then upgrade to data again later) saves $80

4. Ask flower girls to provide thier own dress (after easter sales are going to be your friend)

5. cheap stand in tungsten rings (you can get 2 bands from JVL for 100 with shipping and they will be there fast no problem) Buy more expensive ones with diamonds and what not later and you can still use these as your ‘play’ rings when you are on vacation and don’t want to take the real ones

6. skip the favors, no one will notice and some people might thank you for not having them. 

7. with a month out you obviously can’t change to just cake and punch at this point but if you splurged on anything on food ask your caterer if they can down grade (fewer specialty desserts? less fancy side or salad?) No one is going to notice again

8. Write each of your girls a really sweet heart felt letter on fancy stationary and promise them a girls day out in the future give them thier Bridesmaid or Best Man gift then, I am sure they will understand

Other thoughts, is lighting really necessary? do you have any decor items you haven’t used that can be returned to the store? can your flowers be downgraded to a cheaper option? 

Hope you figure it out, best of luck! 


Post # 16
36 posts
  • Wedding: July 2013

My BM’s are not getting their gifts till after the wedding because 1. the finances and 2. I wanted to give them something meaningful, so I am making them a photo album from the minute I asked them to be my bm’s up until the wedding day when we will take our last photo together.

we are also doing stand in rings, that cut our cost at least $1000

I did way with favors also, the only favor they will get is a blank CD/DVD that im putting on the tables, so if they take pics or video they can download them to that and send back to me which is also taking care of my videographer and less time for the photographer being there.

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