- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
Consider me floored.
Fiance and I were folding laundry today, and talking about wedding planning things- we really hadn’t talked about the actual ceremony itself at all. (His cousin’s husband is officiating, and they live 2 states away, so we haven’t really had time to talk about it with him).
I asked him what he thought about whether we should do traditional vows or write them ourselves, and he said he’s afraid that he wouldn’t be able to keep from crying if he did his own vows.
So then the discussion went to the fact that we will probably both end up crying, and I told him that I would be lucky if I could make it all the way up the aisle (or in our case, garden path) without crying.
His response: “Yeah… maybe we should do a first look so we can get that out of the way in private.”
This is the man who refuses to hear anything about my dress, at all (finally got him to budge and know the color b/c of suits), and has said the whole time that the ONE thing he wanted was to see me for the first time walking up the aisle.
I am quite shocked, but also not sure what I want to do now. His stipulation for a first look is that he would want it to be *right* before the ceremony, so he could still feel “excited” during the ceremony and I wouldn’t seem “old hat” by the time it started.
He was thinking 10-15 minutes before the ceremony starts, which I quickly vetoed. (I am of the opinion that the #1 benefit of the first look is getting great pictures of the couple without being rushed.)
So, I’m going to chat with our photographer when I get the chance and see how she’s done them in the past. I know that if we do go this route, I’ll still have to get pictures with my BMs before our first look, and we would probably do it not long before the ceremony- hopefully I can convince him that the time to do pictures is worth it.
What take do the other bees have? First look or no? If yes, do a quick one right before the ceremony, or do one a bit earlier so you can get your couple pictures before the ceremony?