Post # 1
My husbands daughter’s getting married next month and when the invitation arrived it was only addressed to him. I don’t want to attend. If it was an intentional oversite I don’t want to show up if not invited. His sisters will be flying and I know they will be expecting me to attend also. As he does.
We have been married for five years but a couple for ten so I’m not new to the family.
Advise would be greatly appreciated.
Post # 3
@Uncomfortable: can you ask him to speak to his daughter? find out if it was an accident or something. could be an honest mistake, but it does look pretty bad. 🙁 I’m sorry if she’s intentionally excluding you.
Post # 4
@Uncomfortable: I agree, your husband should just ask his daughter. Hopefully it was just an oversight.
Post # 5
@patchy: I’d hate for him to do that and if it were intentional conflict to arrise and her special day be ruined.
Post # 6
@Uncomfortable: I know you’re trying to be thoughtful, but as it stands, if you don’t go to her wedding it will cause conflict anyway. so you might as well find out the truth of the matter, and get everything out in the open.
Post # 7
Do you get on with his daughter? I presume if you’ve been together for 10 years you’ve already met each other!
Maybe it is because of her mum? Are there any ill feelings between the two of you (from either side?)
Sorry for all the questions…just trying to think of a reason as to why you may not have been invited.
On a side note, related though: my friend is having a civil partnership in November. Her partner’s father is getting married this summer (I think this weekend) to a woman his daughter has never met and they aren’t going to the wedding (lack of notice). When they have their ceremony in November then her father’s new wife won’t be invited…mainly because she has never met her and doesn’t want her civil partnership to be the place to go “hello, I’m your husband’s daughter.”
Hopefully this isn’t the case for you because if you’ve been together for 10 years, as stated before, you must have met!