Post # 1
So I just asked one of my bery dear friends to be my bridesmaid and she lives in Hawaii but returning one month prior to our wedding the East Coast (much closer to where I live but still flying/driving distance). Since she is living away for most of the year right before the wedding, is she still liable to help out my Bridal Party with pitching in financially for my Bridal Shower, Bachelorette, Jack-n-Jill since she is part of the Bridal Party, but cannot attend any of it?
I am torn! Help! Feel it is not fair to my Bridal Party to dish out all the money when she will be part of it to, but also keeping in mind she lives thousands of miles away too and can’t possibly make it to any of those events…..
Post # 3
My sister/moh lives far away and she will not be helping with any of the party expenses that are being held here. If your bm wants to offer, that is very nice, but it should not be at all expected.
Post # 4
I live in a small rural town and the bridal showers in this area are not done by bridal party. People that do the showers are family friends, former teachers of the couple, etc. Each hostess helps by making food items, punch (no alcohol) invitations, postage, etc. Each hostess also gives x amount of money that goes into purchasing the hostess gifts for bride. The shower is held in one of the hostess’s house. People invited use the registry to purchase gifts.
I have been bridesmaids for my sisters and we never did the bachelorette or Jack-n-Jill thing. I know some will view that as "stick in the mud".
I know that this is not help at all. I could not even imagine trying to figure this out!
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
Post # 5
I don’t think a bridesmaid should ever be "expected" to pay for bridal showers and bachelorettes. If they want to do it, they will, and I think it is a "nice" thing to do, but otherwise I think we "expect" a lot more of these girls than we should. We chose them because we want them beside us, not because of what they can do for us.