- 6 years ago
Hi Lady Bees,
My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been together 1 year, & its been nothing but wonderful, ‘easy, effortless & the way it should be‘ (his words)
We are both are 44. He’s never been married, I have been divorced/single for the last 10 years looking for him. His family is small, kind & loving. His parents are adorable & I felt accepted & welcomed in unconditionally. His family & I email / text weekly. They already treat me like their daughter in law, & I’m the first woman they have met & he’s discussed in 7 years.
He is taking me to Spain & Portugal for my B-day for 16 days in May. We discussed a birthday trip, but he’s the one who pulled the trigger & bought us tickets!
It may sound strange- but we’ve never had a fight or arguement. He said “I love you” first, & tells me he loves me daily. He regularly says the most loving things to me & makes me a priority. He reaches for & holds my hand in the middle of the night which just melts my heart. He says he misses me even though we live just 3 miles apart.
Other than our first or second date briefly discussing our desire to eventually be married, we’ve never again discussed marriage or being married. Future talk is always in terms of ‘together’. That being said – I can easily see him proposing without ANY hints at ALL & wanting to completely surprise me.
So- the million dollar question: how many of you had a silent understanding & an unspoken known that your search for each other had ended. Did he propose WITHOUT ANY HINTS, SIGNS, DISCUSSION OF MARRIAGE etc…? Did he completely blindside you with his proposal & you never saw it coming at all?
Other than both of you knowing you wanted to share the adventure of life together, was your proposal a COMPLETE, total surprise without any prior discussion of marriage?