(Closed) out of this world mother-in-law

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would just try to get used to it… This will be going on for the rest of your life!  She’ll show up at baptisms, family events, and everything else inappropriate.  You can’t take her dress shopping for every ocassion in teh future. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@AndysCraftsNmore:  if she shows up dressed like a 15 year old it is she who will look ridiculous, not you. which is what everyone keeps saying on these boards and i know it probably doesn’t really help you feel better. I wish I could say that you can control what others do to make your day perfect, but at the end of the day she is an adult. Letting her childish antics stress you out and ruin your day won’t change what she does. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

@AndysCraftsNmore:  have you started talking to her about mother of the groom dresses? has she shown you what she plans on wearing?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

@AndysCraftsNmore:  I would start emailing her ideas early about what she wants to wear so that by the time she gets to the store, she knows what is expected of her. I know I’ve gotten in trouble here before for really caring what my MOB/MOG wear, but I would prefer the topic of conversation to be how stunning hubby and i look, not how inappropriate our mothers look.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

yeah sending her some ideas on dresses via email could help ease her in.  But as PP said, she’s the one that will look like an idot if she rolls up in a 15 year olds dress.  

 

Maybe you could talk to your photographer about photshopping some more material onto her dress?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Does she know your mom? Could they go shopping together so your mom could influence her?

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

This sort of reminds me of my mom. My mother is gorgeous – drop dead gorgeous. Since I was very young everywhere we go people stop and stare at her. Men constantly approach her, everyone thinks she is my sister, every guy in my high school referred to her as a MILF, etc etc. I wouldn’t say she dresses inappropriately – she is a classy lady, but she does not dress like she is 47 either. She doesn’t dress like a teenager, but if I said she didn’t frequent the junior’s department I’d be lying. That being said, she has been adamant since I got engaged that this is my day and she does not want to upstage me – so she has chosen a really pretty dress for the day. Is it a mother-of-the-bride type dress? No, haha. She wouldn’t be caught dead in something matronly, but it is very attractive and appropriate.

 

I would suggest going shopping with your FMIL. Make it a fun girls day and try to help her find something that you’re both comfortable with. You don’t want her to look ridiculous, but she probably doesn’t want to look like an old maid either. There are a lot of attractive dresses that aren’t slutty, but arent old lady-like either. This reminds me of an episode of Bridezillas I saw years ago where the MOB wore a long tight dress with her boobs overflowing all over the place. It was so ridiculous and really not flattering to someone of her age.

 

My mother’s dress is similar to this…

 

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

@AndysCraftsNmore:  sometimes I wonder about the families we marry into! lol  I think going dress shopping with her is a good idea, and get your mom in on your side would be smart (positive reinforcement for age-appropriate clothing). “keeping both dresses at your place so that everything gets packed the day of” would be smart, too. and if she doesn’t use email, then I would start printing off photos or bringing in catalogues so that she can see what she is expected. i think if you show up at the store without a foundational sense of what is expected of her, you’re going to have a more difficult battle when you get there.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@AndysCraftsNmore:  I can see how thisis upsetting, but it could beso much worse.  Atleast she is excited for your wedding.  My FMIL doesnt even want to talk about any of our plans or hear about any of it.  So just be greatful that sheis excited about your future together…

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