(Closed) Out of town family….Who pays?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Not unless you are feeling generous, or really want them to come and know they can’t afford it.  We have a lot of out of town guests and aren’t paying for anyone.  I’ve also been to a lot of out of town weddings and no one offered to pay for our accommodations.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think most people have guests pay for their own accommodations.  Unless this is what your entire family/group of friends does when they have weddings, I think you will be fine.

A lot of people do set up room blocks for their guests at various hotels though.  This will get them a discounted rate.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Anxiouspeanut: Nope. If you want to, that’s really nice, but you are not required to pay for everyone’s accommodations.

We are having a destination wedding an 99% of our guests are traveling. We’d have to double our budget to pay for all their lodging!

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Your guests pay for their own places to stay you do not have to pay for a place for them to stay

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

No, unless there is no other way they can come.  For us this includes 15 people who are critical to the success of the day.  My parents are also putting up my dad’s parents (my grandpa has advanced Alzheimer’s and my grandma has always been nut-case – she would want to put grandpa who randomly strips in the house with my FMIL and teenaged FSILs, and not see the problem o.0) and my dad’s favorite aunt/uncle (who will help keep Grandma under control, including on the 10 hour drive down.)  12-14 of those people, however, won’t cost any extra.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Everyone coming to my wedding is from OOT…I am not paying for any of their hotel accomodations.  I am however leaving a welcome bag in their rooms for their arrival.  Have you thought about doing this for the OOTers?

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It’s also nice to book a hotel room block and see if you can get a discount.

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Anxiouspeanut: that is not how blocking works. You call a certain hotel up and let them know you are going to be using their hotel for a wedding and if you could block a certain amount of rooms. The rooms are NOT charged to you. They are just set aside and people who call to make reservations says we are booking for Mr and Mrs Anxiouspeanut and they usually give the people a discount

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

The majority of our guests are from out of town…

We reserved a hotel block and are doing welcome bags so that when they check in, they receive a little gift bag with some maps, snacks, bottled water, etc.

I would never have considered paying for everyone’s accomodations though.

 

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