Post # 1
I have a dilemma… I have an out-of-town friend who asked to come to my wedding. I felt bad denying her an invitation as we were roommates in Europe for two months when I was in high school and have kept in touch ever since. I’m worried about a couple things: A)She’ll bring her family since she’s coming from out of town and B) She’ll expect to stay with me while she’s here which I can’t accomodate because I have an out of town bridesmaid and the junior bridesmaid staying with me during that time and my house is pretty small. How can I let her know that she is welcome to come as long as she takes care of her accomodations, etc.?
I’m so frustrated because I’ve had multiple people ask for an invitation to my wedding and I feel awful not sending them one but our guest list is already at 285 and that’s just family and close friends! Help!
Post # 3
@dreamer1288: When you talk to her tell her you can’t wait to see her but just to let her know you do not have any room at your home for her as it is already fully occupied by other guests.
She can’t get upset. After all, she is the one who invited herself hehehe
Post # 4
If she won’t really know anyone at the wedding, I think it’s fair for her to bring a date.
And then I would call her and say “I know you’re coming from out of town and I really appreciate it. I looked into a couple of hotel options for you, which also have babysitting services…” and then give her that information. Looks like you’re being helpful, but you’re also secretly letting her know what’s what.
Post # 5
Just tell her that. I had a lot of out of town guests and a good number of my friends asked if they could stay with me, if I would have let everyone that asked I’d have had over 30 people staying in my 1 bedroom apartment, wasn’t going to happen and people understood that. If she doesn’t just tell her you’re sorry but there’s nothing you can do.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t say anything about her staying with you unless she mentions it. From my experience, most people who travel for a wedding where they don’t have a lot of contacts know that they need to book a hotel. Once she asks, or makes an obvious assumption, then you can let her know there’s no room.
As far as her family, I would just be up front, if the issue is children at a child free wedding. She may decide to leave them with family in their home town, or that she can’t make the trip after all.
Post # 7
@dreamer1288: I agree with PPs. I would tell her how excited you are for her to come, or in the invite include hotel information, or tell her what a great deal you have for OOT guests … talk to her in a light hearted manner about looking for accomodations while visiting you and hopefully she’ll gracefully take the hint.