Post # 1
One of my best friends lives out of town and has not been able to participate in any of the events leading up to the wedding. Had she not lived out of town she would have been my maid of honor. She just informed me she will be able to come into town for the wedding. What is a good way to invlove her now without actually having her take anyones place as a brides maid?
Post # 2
It’s a little icy to not put your best friend in the wedding party just because she’s out if town!
But at this point I would ask her to be an attendant- list her in the program, invite her to rehearsal dinner, give her a boutinniere (sp?), have her get ready with you, then hand out programs at the ceremony or do a reading.
I did this for two friends weddings and it was great – I was in the wedding party but with much less hassle.
Post # 3
I have made wine glasses and cute favors for all the other girls. Do I make hers extra special or treat hers exactly the same?
Post # 4
amber12358: I wouldn’t make it extra special, but you could personalize it a little more, since it’s a friend gift, not a bridesmaid gift. I would give it to her privately, though – I might be a little hurt if I put in the time/money to be a bridesmaid and another girl who didn’t do either got the same gift at the rehearsal dinner or whenever.
Post # 5
Why would you not ask your best friend to be in the wedding party?
My best friend who lives out of town is one of my three bridesmaids. There are definitey logisitics issues, but we make it work because she wants to be involved and the other two know to involve her. This bridesmaid also tours internationally with a ballet company is out of the country for up to 6 weeks at a time. She is on tour more often than she is in the USA. She did not make the shower, so I jokingly had a cardboard cut out of her face made and put on a popsicle stick and took silly pictures with it so she didn’t feel left out. It made her laugh, even though she was sad she wasn’t actually there.
She can do a reading, give a toast, sit with your parents and grandparents, and attend all wedding events.
Post # 6
amber12358: I would only have one bridesmaid if I choose them by the cities. Haha. But I was in a wedding that had a similar situation. She still hung out with all of us. She made her a wineglass of their states with a heart in the middle and some besties stuff. it was super cute and she didn’t seem out of place or anything. She was almost like her assisant for the weekend. ( in a good way though)
i think she gave her a robe also just not the bridesmaid jewelry.
Post # 7
dmh426: it wasnt that I didnt ask her to be in the wedding…she was the first person I called with the exception of my parents. she originally was going to be a major part but then found she was pregnant and wasnt sure if she was going to be able to make the trip. My wedding is next weekend and I was told her yesterday her doctor cleared her for the trip with it being so up in the air for all this time she had asked me to just make other arragements but now that she is coming I want her to feel involved.