Out of town guest involvement

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
7915 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

It’s a little icy to not put your best friend in the wedding party just because she’s out if town! 

But at this point I would ask her to be an attendant- list her in the program, invite her to rehearsal dinner, give her a boutinniere (sp?),  have her get ready with you, then hand out programs at the ceremony or do a reading.

I did this for two friends weddings and it was great – I was in the wedding party but with much less hassle.

Post # 4
3833 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

amber12358:  I wouldn’t make it extra special, but you could personalize it a little more, since it’s a friend gift, not a bridesmaid gift. I would give it to her privately, though – I might be a little hurt if I put in the time/money to be a bridesmaid and another girl who didn’t do either got the same gift at the rehearsal dinner or whenever.

Post # 5
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Why would you not ask your best friend to be in the wedding party? 

My best friend who lives out of town is one of my three bridesmaids.  There are definitey logisitics issues, but we make it work because she wants to be involved and the other two know to involve her.  This bridesmaid also tours internationally with a ballet company is out of the country for up to 6 weeks at a time. She is on tour more often than she is in the USA.  She did not make the shower, so I jokingly had a cardboard cut out of her face made and put on a popsicle stick and took silly pictures with it so she didn’t feel left out.  It made her laugh, even though she was sad she wasn’t actually there. 

She can do a reading, give a toast, sit with your parents and grandparents, and attend all wedding events.

Post # 6
705 posts
Busy bee

amber12358:  I would only have one bridesmaid if I choose them by the cities. Haha. But I was in a wedding that had a similar situation. She still hung out with all of us. She made her a wineglass of their states with a heart in the middle and some besties stuff. it was super cute and she didn’t seem out of place or anything. She was almost like her assisant for the weekend. ( in a good way though) 

i think she gave her a robe also just not the bridesmaid jewelry. 

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