Out this month? TTC is emotionally tough

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Although I haven’t been in that position, I can agree that TTC is so emotionally draining.  I have only been trying for 4 months, but it is difficult.  I hope you get your BFP very soon! 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yes, TTC can be emotionally draining – and we’ve only been doing it for 2 cycles! I can’t imagine how the ladies in 6+/1 yr do it with so much strength.

Having said that, I would really recommend temping and charting. It’s not that much of an imposition in the bedroom, and I really think it would help you given your track record of irregular cycles and will give you a better idea if and when you are O’ing.

Good luck! These boards are great for support to 🙂

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I second the temping/charting advice. For me, it makes TTC much LESS stressful. I know exactly what is going on with my body. I know when I O. I know when AF should show up and then know when to test.

I’d also recommend seeing a doctor since you’ve never had regular cycles. There may be somehting else going on

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yes, it is quite tough.  It’s usually hard for me for 2-3 days after AF shows up, then I’m hopefully again for the next cycle.   I’ve been temping, and the last 2 times I saw the temp drop, I knew AF was on the way and I just lay in bed crying.  DH tells me I act like its the end of the world, he just doesnt get it.  We’ve been trying 13 months now and I get along cause it’s not the end of the world.  I cry it out, then everyday life continues.

 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@AnotherAnonyBee:  I’m with you. I’m 38 (39 next month) and just want 1 kid. I hate seeing my friends on FB talk about their kids (some even have kids going off to college!!!) and here i am just starting the journey. But, you have to keep the faith. It will happen. Maybe not as easily as it happens for some, and maybe not as quickly as we’d like, but I have to keep believing that it WILL happen.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It definitely might be too soon still especially if you are not entirely sure when you ovulated! But if this isn’t your cycle, I’d definitely look into charting or at least doing OPKs and charting CM. 

Post # 12
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297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@AnotherAnonyBee:  definitely temp in bed, at the same time everyday – don’t get up and move around at all! 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@AnotherAnonyBee:  

@Miss_Magoo82:  +1

Do NOT get up and move (even stand up to hit snooze) before temping. I have an alarm on my phone, reach over to my night stand, pop in my thermometer, and then put my temp into FF. Luckily for me, I temp around 5:30 AM and roll right back to sleep!

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper

@mrspitcher8:  +1

 @AnotherAnonyBee:  So sorry about the struggles. We are in our second cycle and I have nothing but respect for those ladies that have been trying for a year or more. It is hard to get excited about the possiblity only to be let down with a BFN.

I do agree with the ladies about charting. With the combination of charting and OPK’s I was able to predict and then confirm my O this month and it was such a relief. I take my temperature every morning at 6 am, I set an alarm. I literally roll over, take my temp, log it and go back to sleep. The key is to take it before you are active and at the same time every day for consistency.

Wishing you good luck and loads of baby dust. FX for you!!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@AnotherAnonyBee:  I can relate to how frustrating TTC is and want to just come by to say HANG IN THERE!! Like you, I didn’t have a period for months after coming off BCP and they were unpredictable (cycles ranged from 30 to 75 days). I know you don’t want to get scientific just yet ( I didn’t for awhile either) but I would highly recommend temping and charting. And then if you want to go a step further, OPKs. It took me a full year after coming off BCP–and was the 2nd cycle after I added in OPKs to temping and charting. It’s pretty crazy because they say there’s usually a 2 week window when it comes to dating–my baby measures spot on to the exact day that my chart says he was conceived. And to be honest, the month that it happened was the month that DH and I said ok let’s take a break from this and try again later on. So maybe relaxing was what I needed–I know, easier said than done 🙂

To all you ladies that are TTC, hang in there and don’t get discouraged! If anyone needs someone to talk to, PM me, I’m more than happy to talk TTC! GOOD LUCK!

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