Post # 1
I thought this might be our month. After not getting periods for months and months at a time, I finally got one last month and have been carefully paying attention to my body since. At about 11-13 dpo I was getting many of the signs of O, so I made sure we BD’ed several times. Since I haven’t had regular periods, I have made sure to bd as much as possible bc i couldn’t be sure exactly when I was O.
For the past couple of days I have felt symptoms that could be AF but also could be (maybe) a bfp, so I have been testing. Yesterday morning I used a wondfo and it didn’t come up for the first minute or so, so I went back to bed. I know it is not valid after 5 min, but an hour later when I woke up there was a definite, albeit light, line there. I tested this morning on a frer and got absolutely nothing. We have been trying for several months (even before AF had finally made an appearance) and I was hoping this wouldn’t be the case. I had always worried about fertility as I have never in my life had regular periods. I know I should start temping and reading TCOYF but we wanted to try for a few months without getting all scientific, lol.
I know I’m not the first or last person to be in this position but it’s definitely very frustrating. Has anyone been in a similar situation and gotten a bfp? How like did it take? I guess I am just looking for some hope, I’m kind of having a down day.
Post # 3
Although I haven’t been in that position, I can agree that TTC is so emotionally draining. I have only been trying for 4 months, but it is difficult. I hope you get your BFP very soon!
Post # 4
Yes, TTC can be emotionally draining – and we’ve only been doing it for 2 cycles! I can’t imagine how the ladies in 6+/1 yr do it with so much strength.
Having said that, I would really recommend temping and charting. It’s not that much of an imposition in the bedroom, and I really think it would help you given your track record of irregular cycles and will give you a better idea if and when you are O’ing.
Good luck! These boards are great for support to 🙂
Post # 5
I second the temping/charting advice. For me, it makes TTC much LESS stressful. I know exactly what is going on with my body. I know when I O. I know when AF should show up and then know when to test.
I’d also recommend seeing a doctor since you’ve never had regular cycles. There may be somehting else going on
Post # 6
Thanks for the support, ladies 🙂 I told myself that if it doesn’t work by next month then I will start temping. I started using FF this month and was able to track symptoms and cm. Question: when you temp do you do it in bed or get up and go to the bathroom? I’ve heard both ways.
I’ve seen the dr several times and had all kinds of tests done. Everything seems normal, he just said that I’m pretty under weight and to try to gain some, which I have been. See, there is no such thing as a perfect weight. Being a girl is tough lol
Post # 7
PS, I’m at about 11 dpo (I think). I know that some people have gotten a bfp by this point and some not for a few days. Given my possible light bfp followed by a bfn do you think it might just be too soon still?
Post # 8
Yes, it is quite tough. It’s usually hard for me for 2-3 days after AF shows up, then I’m hopefully again for the next cycle. I’ve been temping, and the last 2 times I saw the temp drop, I knew AF was on the way and I just lay in bed crying. DH tells me I act like its the end of the world, he just doesnt get it. We’ve been trying 13 months now and I get along cause it’s not the end of the world. I cry it out, then everyday life continues.
Post # 9
@pinkshoes: sometimes it helps to get a good cry out. I’m so sorry it hasn’t worked for you thus far but I hope that will change for you soon! It is tough and even though the guys understand, I don’t know that they really do. It’s definitely an emotional journey.
I think I’m going to avoid Facebook for a while as all I’m seeing lately are posts about everyone’s babies. I’m happy for them but it is tough to see that sometimes, especially when they are on their second and third while we can’t even have one. OK, I’ll end my sob story now
Post # 10
@AnotherAnonyBee: I’m with you. I’m 38 (39 next month) and just want 1 kid. I hate seeing my friends on FB talk about their kids (some even have kids going off to college!!!) and here i am just starting the journey. But, you have to keep the faith. It will happen. Maybe not as easily as it happens for some, and maybe not as quickly as we’d like, but I have to keep believing that it WILL happen.
Post # 11
It definitely might be too soon still especially if you are not entirely sure when you ovulated! But if this isn’t your cycle, I’d definitely look into charting or at least doing OPKs and charting CM.
Post # 12
@AnotherAnonyBee: definitely temp in bed, at the same time everyday – don’t get up and move around at all!
Post # 13
Do NOT get up and move (even stand up to hit snooze) before temping. I have an alarm on my phone, reach over to my night stand, pop in my thermometer, and then put my temp into FF. Luckily for me, I temp around 5:30 AM and roll right back to sleep!
Post # 14
Good to know, and it doesn’t sound as hard as I had made it out to be in my mind. Hopefully it will happen within the month but if not, I’ll be buying myself a thermometer. I was hoping it would happen the old fashioned way but I guess we’re not all that lucky.
Agh this is so frustrating but I guess it will happen when it is supposed to.
You girls are great help, thank you so much! And baby dust to you all!!
Post # 15
@AnotherAnonyBee: So sorry about the struggles. We are in our second cycle and I have nothing but respect for those ladies that have been trying for a year or more. It is hard to get excited about the possiblity only to be let down with a BFN.
I do agree with the ladies about charting. With the combination of charting and OPK’s I was able to predict and then confirm my O this month and it was such a relief. I take my temperature every morning at 6 am, I set an alarm. I literally roll over, take my temp, log it and go back to sleep. The key is to take it before you are active and at the same time every day for consistency.
Wishing you good luck and loads of baby dust. FX for you!!
Post # 16
@AnotherAnonyBee: I can relate to how frustrating TTC is and want to just come by to say HANG IN THERE!! Like you, I didn’t have a period for months after coming off BCP and they were unpredictable (cycles ranged from 30 to 75 days). I know you don’t want to get scientific just yet ( I didn’t for awhile either) but I would highly recommend temping and charting. And then if you want to go a step further, OPKs. It took me a full year after coming off BCP–and was the 2nd cycle after I added in OPKs to temping and charting. It’s pretty crazy because they say there’s usually a 2 week window when it comes to dating–my baby measures spot on to the exact day that my chart says he was conceived. And to be honest, the month that it happened was the month that DH and I said ok let’s take a break from this and try again later on. So maybe relaxing was what I needed–I know, easier said than done 🙂
To all you ladies that are TTC, hang in there and don’t get discouraged! If anyone needs someone to talk to, PM me, I’m more than happy to talk TTC! GOOD LUCK!