Post # 1
I am so scared about picking a wedding date for my outdoor wedding! I was hoping for the first couple of weeks in June but it looks like the best choices right now are either May 15, 2010 or June 26, 2010.
The problem? Apparently STL’s rainiest month is May and the likelihood of a really hot and humid day at the end of June seems super likely. So which do I pick?? I do have a couple of other available dates but with FI’s visitation schedule with his daughter, holidays, and birthdays those two dates seem to be the only ones.
I was putting off picking the date but now a "friend has gotten engaged and is planning on gettting married around the same time. She’s way more proactive than me and is already trying to book the hall.. etc.. so she has requested I give her my date so she can schedule hers.. ahhh!!
Post # 3
Before I vote I have to ask. How is his relationship with the ex? Do you foresee her putting up a fight to switch a date with another one? If you do and it’s important for him to have her there -which I assume it is- I would go with the dates that he definitely has her.
Good Luck! And remember Mother Nature is finicky so I wouldn’t let weather completely control your date.
Post # 4
I voted for June because, while you can always set-up fans in a tent outside to cool it down, there’s not a lot you can do to fix the problem of rain. And I would be more likely to stay through heat and humidity than I would to be outside in the middle of a downpour. 🙂
Post # 5
There is more to consider here — will it be a morning ceremony when it’s less hot? And I agree with Gerbera — would the ex really keep the kids from coming to the wedding if it’s on a different weekend?
I think June is less hot than July or August, so 6/26 could work, but early June could be best if the kids can come. Were there any other reasons to exclude those dates?
Post # 6
I’m also wondering, is your reception outside as well? I would think hot/humid just for the ceremony might not be terrible.
And I second all the other questions about your FI’s ex. Would she really keep her daughter away from her father’s wedding? Is this something he can discuss in advance with the ex? Maybe trade away a holiday or something if it comes down to it? B/c I do think that it’s a bad idea to plan the wedding on a date you aren’t 100% sure the daughter can attend…but I would hope there’s some room for negotiation on such an important event (for both your FI and his daughter).
Post # 7
May 1-best friend’s bday, visitation
May 29-Memorial Weekend, visitation
June12- FI’s bday, visitation
Fi’s Ex is kind of unpredictable. One day she is friendly and cool the next day she is psycho. I’m afraid she will be against us getting married because she will be afraid that us being married will give us an advantage to get custody… which isn’t necessary reality just her fears. So I’m afraid she’ll pull something. But on the other hand she might be great. I just don’t want to risk it.
We are planning on having our ceremony in an outdoor ampitheater with no cover so I’m worried. The reception will probably be inside but no decisions there yet. So it’s mostly the ceremony that’s the issue.
Oh and we are planning late afternoon / evening so hopefully it will have cooled by then.
Post # 8
Oh.. and the other thing I’m worried about is that I will be finishing up my Master’s degree and doing student teaching in May. The date isn’t finalized but I will probably still be in School on May 15th.
Post # 9
I am getting married in July in STL this summer. We are having our ceremony outside. The weather in St. Louis is so variable, you really never know. It could be 100 out with 95% humidity or it could be 80. We are having the reception inside and we have the option of having the ceremony inside if needed, which is a nice fall back if needed. I would say go with June, since it sounds like overall that seems like the better date. It might be hot, but it probably won’t be that bad, but the weather in stl is pretty weird, so have a back up plan is my advice. We have also timed it so it should be a bit cooler. I think you just have to go with what feels right and hope the weather works out.
Post # 10
@Lisbrueck – I am born and raised stl so I know what you mean by variable weather. It’s so hard to make an educated guess. I think I’ll contact my ceremony site today and ask if they offer a backup plan just in case. Oy!
Post # 11
I live in Cape, about 2 hours south of St Louis, and while I would love to do an outside ceremony, the weather in this part of the country is way too unpredictable. I would have to take anti-anxiety meds, and it would not be pretty. You are brave for having it outside! Does your venue offer an indoor back-up plan?
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2010 - Jewel Box in Forest Park and Windows on Washington
You could always do something semi-outdoor, like the World’s Fair Pavillion. It’s outside, but covered. Or, if you had regular outdoor ceremony, you could print your programs to be fans for the guests to keep them cool.
It can be just as hot in May as in June, trust me!