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I think it sounds weird too, but I see it done like that all the time. It is only a couple of people? I might let them know via phone or email that they're welcome to bring a guest instead of writing it out. It does look odd. :)
I don't think it's weird at all to write "& Guest" on the outer envelope. Ideally, you should know every guests name before the invites go out, but that doesn't always happen. I've received two invitations in the past year with my fiance written "& Guest" on the outer envelope.
I think it's better to write it than to leave your guests wondering if they have a guest or not.
I wrote "& guest" on the outer envelope and then "2 places have been reserved in your honor" on the RSVP card. I don't think anyone will mind.
I did that for my invitations because I, too, only had an outer envelope to reduce paper usage. It did feel weird putting "and guest," but I thought maybe the nicely-written calligraphy would make up for it ;) And also, I think, most of those people would understand.
I also like Tee's suggestion. Or you can put a small notecard or tag in the RSVP that says, "For So-and-so and Guest"
I also didn't have inner envelopes (I was not happy about it!) but I did write "Mr. Smith and Guest" or "The Smith Family". I didn't love it ... but then I realized that it gets opened and thrown out! After I thought about that I put it out of my mind and moved on to the next big decsion!
Personally i wouldn't do it. I'd just let the person know some other way that they can bring a guest if they like. Maybe you could put it on the reply card?
I wouldn't put it on the outer envelope... I'd slip a note in with the invitation. "We hope you can come! If you'd like to bring a guest, you're certainly welcome to."
I was invited to a few weddings with my fiance as "and guest". When we got it in the mail we laughed a little, but without that, we wouldn't have known I was invited too, so i think it's fine to do it.
That's what we did. We did not want to do inner envelopes and we figured that would be the easiest way to get the point across.
where it was safe to assume who the "and guest" would be, we just wrote the guest's name on the envelope as well. for those that were less clear / obvious, we left the "and guest" off but emailed / spoke to the person to let them know it was fine for them to bring a guest.
I like the idea of either letting the person know by phone or email or in person that they can bring a guest, or including a note with the invitation. We made up little insert cards with our invites that said "You are welcome to bring a guest!" and stuck those in with the invitations for people who were getting a plus one.
It may be wrong and seem weird, but that's what I did because I had to as I also didn't use inner envelopes!
I think addressing the envelopes using "and guest" is perfectly fine! I've received a ton of invitations that were dresses that way, and never thought it looked weird.
My fiance and I have both gotten wedding invitations like that (when we first started dating). I never thought twice about it..we both knew the other was invited.
We have inner envelopes and want to include them. However, we don't want to print anything on the inner envelopes. Can we still write Mr. Joe Smith and Guest on the outer envelope or would that be weird? So we would have both envelopes, but the inner one would be used just as a holder of the invitation, response card, etc.
@Hwould: It is not "proper", but brides do all manner of not-proper things without being thought wierd. And what is "wierd" anyway, but another word for unique, unconventional and different. And nowadays nearly every bride wantshere wedding to be "unique".
I have to say, I think the most unique wedding nowadays would be the one where the bride actually does pay more than lip service to "etiquette" and makes the extra effort to follow proper protocol. And certainly any number of bees have pointed out that they find proper form to be "wierd", so you are probably safer to be flouting it.
I would probably find myself wondering why you bothered killing the extra tree to have inner envelopes when you weren't going to put them to proper use, but I wouldn't waste too much energy on such wondering.
@aspasia475: Thanks for your opinion! I think we are going to use both but olay print on the outer envelope. The inner envelopes were a bonus and we didn't know we were going to get them. So, since we have them we figure we'll use them. We, also, noticed the outer envelopes are a little big for just the invitation, response card, etc. Also, thanks for making me feel not so "weird"!
We aren't inviting single friends with a plus one so everyone will be addressed directly on the invite. However, if I didn't know someone's name, I'd write "and guest" on it as we are not doing inner envelopes...it's the last of my wedding worries, truth be told!
Be prepared for "and guest" to be the hot chick he met last week. When invites go out the wedding party will be offered a plus one, other than that married couples , engaged couples or permanent couples (have met their SO many times, know their name, holidays are celebrated together) no wedding guest is getting the open ended option of bring whoever. So an invite might be to Mr. Dan Evans and Miss Becky Andrews...if Dan breaks up with Becky then dan comes alone not with his rebound.
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I will not have inner envelopes, so what do I do about a single friend who can bring a guest? Write "Mr. Joe Blow and Guest" on the envelope?! That sounds wrong and weird to me...but I can't think of any other way to do it. any suggestions?