Post # 1
I am so lost on this outer/inner envelope thing.
1) So for a family would it be:
Outer: Mr. and Mrs. John Smith and Family
Inner: Mr. and Mrs Smith (and then what about Jane and Bill?)
2) I have a couple of friends who are engaged and do not live together, who gets the invitation or do they both get one?
3) For couple who are living together (not married) do they get one envelope and are their names on the same line?
4) Also on the inner envelopes for a non engaged couple, should their names be on seperate lines? Ex:
Sorry I’m so lost. If anyone has a cheat sheet that would be awesome!
Post # 3
1. For family, you should put the first names on the inner envelope like Jane, Bill, and Judy (child)
2. For couples that do not live together, I would send the invitiation to one of them (but addressed to both).
3. For a couple living together but not married, their names would be on the same envelope but on different lines.
4. Again for inner envelopes, they are more informal so put both of their first names on the envelope.
Post # 4
This is how you do it:
1. Outer: Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
Inner: Mr. and Mrs. Smith
Jane and Bill (in order of Age, oldest first)
2. Technically you’re supposed to send one invitation to each of them, but if you aren’t friends with the significant other, list it like this and send to the one address:
Outer: Mr. John Smith
Inner: Mr. Smith
Or you can say Mr. John Smith and Guest on the inner if you don’t know their name.
3. For friends who are living together, send one invitation. Do it this way:
Outer: Mr. John Smith
Miss Jane Doe
Inner: Mr. Smith
4. Yes, list them on separate lines.
Post # 5
1) I think on the inner envelope, you want to explicitly list the names of everyone you’re inviting. So “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith, Jane, and Bill” on the inside envelope. That way there’s no confusiong about whether “and family” includes Jane’s boyfriend or Danny who moved out of the house last year, etc etc.
2) I’m not living with my Fiance, and for both of the weddings we were invited to this past year, they sent the invitation to my address but addressed to both of us. They asked specifically who they should send the invitation to, and we told them my address.
3) One envelope with names on same line like this: “Mr. John Smith and Miss Jane Doe”
4) I had always assumed the inner envelope would be worded exactly the same as the outer envelope, except that “and family” gets expanded to all the individual kids’ names. Maybe there’s a different rule about that, but anyway that’s what I’m going to do!
Also, if you’re inviting a couple and one of them has a prefix (like Dr.) you have to list that person first, even if it’s the lady: “Dr. Jane and Mr. John Smith”
Post # 7
I see the other posters recommended different lines for people who are not married. Why is that?
Post # 8
I would like to know what the heck an inner envelope is?? Lol. I feel like a bridal failure. Do you put the invite and other cards inside an envelop and then inside another envelope?
Post # 9
@jenbrandner: I’m not completely sure why but maybe because they aren’t officially a family according to etiquette?
@Ottawa: It is basically a second envelope inside. The way you described it was right. A lot of girls don’t use them anymore.
Post # 11
Just one more (I hope), do you only put “and Guest” on the inner envelope?
Post # 12
If you’re doing outer and inner envelopes, just list “and Guest” on the inner
Post # 13
I would not put “and guest” on the outer envelope.
Post # 14
What if there is no “inner” envelope? We are using this michaels invitation suite and it’s a folder/pocket kind of thing…. There’s only the outside address…
Post # 15
For our friends who are engaged I sent them one invite addressed to usually the female if they are equally close to us since it is a bigger thing for them.
For friends who are dating but not engaged that we are equally close to we sent intivations to both of them. If not then we sent it to one and added the and guest to it. If they don’t believe their relationship isn’t important to make it official (engaged) then why should we.
@ KLP2010 we are not having an inner envelope either so we are just having the names on the outside.