Post # 1
I am starting this thread because it seems we are a rare breed and I would love to find others to share this journey with.
So post here and share your story and journey so far.
I recently married my best friend and love of my life. I am 42 and he is 39.
I have two older children from a previous relationship. A girl who is 14 and a boy who is 21. My Darling Husband has no children of his own and we would love to have one or two together ASAP of coarse.
At this point we are just getting started and trying for au naturale but may look into taking clomid and IUI in the very near future.
Right now my AF (aunt flo) is 5 days late and I have taken 3 tests all negitive. I am praying that I have not begun early menopause.
Good luck and baby dust to us and all ages TTC. <3
Post # 3
Good luck! I’m over 40 too, but I have no plans to get pregnant. I hope you have good news soon!
Post # 4
Both my hubby and I are 41 and I’d love to try and have a baby. Our delay has been in trying to get insurance to cover some genetic testing for me, since my younger sister is a carrier for cystic fibrosis. So we aren’t actively ttc right now.
I was told by my ob/gyn not to delay seeking fertility help, but honestly both my hubby and I are of the mindset that it will happen naturally, if it doesn’t then we are adopting a whole lot of furry babies. 🙂
Sending baby dust and positive energy your way. It can take as long as a week-10 days after a missed period to see the + test, so don’t worry about menopause yet!
Post # 5
I just turned 43, my Fiance is 30.
I’m trying to decide if I want to have a tubal ligation reversal, hire a surrogate, or adopt.
I even started a thread to discuss TLR not too long ago. I’ve been checked out by my ob/gyn and he said everything “down there and inside there” is good to go.
Post # 6
I married in July 2010 for the first time at age 39. Currently, I am 41 and he will be 36 soon.
I have no children, with the exception of my students and fur babies.
We have been TTC since I went off of BCP’s in January. So, this is our 4th month of trying naturally. The book Taking Charge of Your Fertility was very helpful to me, since I had been on BCP’s for the last 15+ years. It’s helped me to learn how to chart and watch for those key ovulation signs.
Currently, I’m at 9 DPO. I’ll be waiting for the upcoming weekend to test, if AF doesn’t show up before then.
Wishing you all a healthy and happy TTC journey!!
Post # 7
Yay. Thanks for the responces to this thread.
@Loribeth: Thank you for the good luck wishes.
@StarryNight2011: Good luck with the insurance Gawd I hate insurance companys! I hope you are right about the week to 10 days for + test that would be wild if we were preggo without having started the ttc process yet. I really don’t have any symptoms except sore back and nipples but that could be from all the “honeymooning” we have been doing since getting married 2 weeks ago. LOL
@Paigey: I hope you get to have the tubal ligation reversal and it goes well. Keep us posted.
@melisslp: Looks like so far you and I are the only ones TTC at this moment. I hope we keep in touch through this thread. I would love to follow you an this journey and have a TTC buddy.
So your are testing next weekend right? Wishing you all the luck and truckloads of babydust. Lets us know how it goes!.
Post # 8
Just wanted to send my TTC love to all the 40+’ers. I conceived at just under 38 and am a fellow Advanced Maternal Age member. 🙂 Best of luck!
Post # 9
@luvmyDwight: I’d be willing to be that you’re not going through early menopause. Have you used Fertility Friend or another type of calendar to measure your cycles? I know that my luteal phase can range from 13-16 days, so maybe you’re just having a longer phase this month….OR…maybe you’re pregnant!! We’ll definitely have to check up on one another!!
@chrispygal: Thanks, dear!! Any words of wisdom for we “mature” women?
Post # 10
@melisslp: No advice really other than to track your cycles and “know” your window. 🙂 If you check out the TTC more than 6 months board there are some interesting posts about the “pregnancy position”. It’s helped many of them get their BFP’s. 😉
Post # 11
I’ve just started checking out the fertility threads as we are going to start trying. I am not quite 40- I’m 38, but I figure it’s close enough (hope that’s ok). I’m having my IUD removed tomorrow and am going to have a conversation with the doctor about to expect as I’ve had gyno issues in the past that I’m afraid will cause problems- not to mention my age. I’ve seen clomid mentioned here and on other posts- what is it?
Post # 12
@chrispygal: I best go over and check out what the “pregnancy position” is!! Thnx!
@celticbride: Of course, we won’t discriminate against you for being 700 days or so younger than us! lol ~ Clomid is a drug that many women use that have difficulty with releasing eggs (ovulation).
Post # 13
@melisslp: Yay I can stay 🙂 haha. Thanks for answering my question about clomid. I had a biopsy of my uterus a couple of years ago and my doctor told me that one of my hormone levels was off and I wasn’t ovulating. I was so surprised by this because I definitely had AF every month! Anyway, I’ve been worried ever since that conversation that when the time came, I’d have trouble. I am with a new doctor now and she has helped to put my mind at ease, but I am still really anxious to talk to her tomorrow.
Post # 14
@StarryNight2011: Hi just an FYI/not to get too off topic.. I joined a website called http://www.23andme.com and they do genetic testing that isn’t very expensive. They don’t cover EVERYTHING but they do cover Cystic fibrosis and if you and your husband both do the test you can see if you are both carriers.. along with 40+other inherited conditions.
Post # 15
@celticbride: I sometimes wonder if I’m ovulating too. Even with charting temps and using OPK’s, I’m still not sure it’s actually happening. My OBGYN said that I should come in if we’re still not pregnant at 6 months. ~ Sorry to hear about your medical history. Wishing you lots of luck at your appointment tomorrow! Do keep in touch! Cheering for you!!
Post # 16
I’ll join. Normally I’m on the IF and IVF threads. Just turned 42 and waiting to find out Next for this summer. Currently recovering from surgery to remove uterine scarring. Second surgery in past 8 months, first was robotic myo to remove 11 fibroids. We most likely will go to IVF because AMA and I have Asherman’s. Àll my 3day testing is w/in normal range. I’m under the care of a RE and have had the hard discussions. Acupuncture weekly and getting back into yoga. For ladies starting out this is what I’ve found helpful:
- After 3 months, make an appt w/ an RE. Not all infertility is due to a female factor. 30% of couples discover it is due to a male factor.
- Start taking prenatals, fish oil, Cal/Mag/Vit D, and Vit C. Recent studies have shown, older women tend to have lower Vit D levels which contribute to IF. Also start Darling Husband giving Darling Husband a daily vitamin, Zinc is necessary for sperm.
- Remembering your not alone. Women for centries have had children in their 40s. We’re not an anomally.
- Check out resolve.org. There’s a ton of helpful info and the threads tend to be private.
- Laughter is wonderful medicine. Ttw is horrible but laughter can keep you sane.
Take control. I choose my new RE because of persoal reference as well as researched Sart.org, healthgrade.com, etc.