- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
So, I’m Maid of Honor for my long time best friend. My weding is in June… she’s my Maid/Matron of Honor also- her wedding is in September.
Mind you, she’s not planned my shower- and is always “too busy” to help out with anything when asked.
While working on everything for my wedding- I have been getting stuff together to throw her shower the week after I get home from my honeymoon. I’ll be off for the summer- so it is totally do-able. The only other Bridesmaid or Best Man that is available to help will be 8 mos pregnant at that time- so I’m trying to have it as quickly as I can after I get home to accomodate her.
I’m a very planned-out person. So I want all ducks in a row ASAP. I found a good place that isn’t charging anything, it’s great- clean, cute, lots of parking- a decent venue for a shower. It is near a less than desirable neighborhood (not unsafe- but, just not a high-status area)- but I asked the bride over and over if she was ok with it before i booked.. and she said she didn’t mind at all.
Then the other bridesmaid butt in. Background- we get along- but have never been chummy. We hang out and have fun together…. but I just don’t appreciate her personality. She bosses my best friend around and she literally follows everything she says like a little lost puppy. The sad thing is, she KNOWS she lets her boss her around…. but is ok with it….. at times… and others she avoids her like the plague….
So, with a lovely personality such as this…. you can imagine how she is to me just making plans. (To be fair- ive tried to include her many times…. but, she always has a reason why she can’t get together to discuss… I got tired of waiting and just made decisions).
She (Other BM) and I met at the place to have the party on Friday- she agreed it was perfect, and for the price- we couldn’t pass it up. I thought it was too easy to convince her of all of this… but she was very pleasant.. we parted ways.
Bridesmaid or Best Man and BFF/bride went shopping this weekend I guess- and they met up with the BFF’s mom somehow. Now BFF is telling me that they all discusses and decided it was “too far off of a main road” (literally less than 1/2 mile from an interstate) and that we should have it catered “to make it easier on me…. since I’ll just be getting home from my honeymoon”
I’m so ticked (mind you I”m at the 2 month mark til my wedding and feeling LOTS of stress about it in the last 2 weeks)- i want to say Eff it all…. Its my job to plan the shower, not theirs-
I know how the other Bridesmaid or Best Man works… she said yes to my face, and then turned them off to the whole idea. She wanted to have it all catered to begin with and wanted to spend big money on holding it in a hotel. (not exactly sure why… she was unemployed at the time- has had a job for lke a month…. and back to unemployed again) I flat out do not have the money for that- but knew I could make all the food and make it very nice- I didn’t ask her to cook, I’m quite capable of doing it all on my own (or um… maybe with some help from my mom- who is awesome at catering events!).
When my BM’s ask me how it’s all going (they all know what a joy she is to deal with)…. I’ve defended her and said how much she’s changed- how we’ve all had fun together…. and we have…. but now I see her true colors…. same old same old.
What do I do? Just let them plan it all? I’m seriously offended and just annoyed. I’m over doing anything for this wedding- I hve my own to worry about- and I don’t like having that attitude- I truly want to do this for my long time best friend. I am trying to put all of my dislike for this girl to the side- but she’s pulling the same stuff she did way back when we were all in high school….
If she didn’t like it- she should’ve said something before we booked it. And it just irritates me that she has talked the brides mom into being on her side. Passive aggresiveness is so annoying!
Sorry, I feel like I vent a lot on this site. I really am not a misearble person…. this really is my only place that I vent!