Over my Sister … VENT

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3084 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@MrsWootz:  your sister sounds like a huge bitch. What do your parents say about this? I would definitely be hurt if I were you. 

Post # 5
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MrsWootz:  Your sister is SERIOUSLY one crazy daisy!

But I’m willing to bet that no one but you will realize how similar the two weddings are!

So, really, she can eat it. Because she wasted ALL that money to have a wedding more expensive than yours, and NO ONE is going to be able to tell!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

honestly, I think its fantastic that she picked a day *AFTER* yours. I would really be looking forward to having all the same guests show up and see how unoriginal her wedding is, especially since its only 5 days after yours (if i read that correctly). *evil laugh*

I would be a lot more upset if her wedding was before and made your wedding look like the copy, but now shes the one who looks desperate. 🙂 Take a deep breath and know that your wedding will be a bajillion times better because yours is geniune and it will be obvious that yours is from the heart and real to *your* relationship and wedding. Hers will look fake and forced because those aren’t things that she put thought into.

I’m sorry you’re going through this, your sister sounds super immature and frustrating. don’t give her any more details about your wedding, in fact, i would start giving her false information (im wearing a purple wig down the aisle, we will have clowns to entertain during cocktail hour, koolaid and lemons for signature drinks, etc). Its misleading, but in your situation i encourage it, mostly because your sisters behavior pisses me off from behind a computer screen.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Your sister is silly, and you should just laugh at it because it’s ridiculous. Your wedding is first, and I imagine you have lots of overlapping guests. If anything, I imagine her wedding will be a let-down for her. People generally do not love weddings and do not  dream of getting a chance to attend the same wedding more than once. I also have to mention that all of the beautiful details that you worked so hard on will really only be appreciated by you, so enjoy them and try not to worry about it.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Wow I would be so annoyed. My 2 sisters both had DWs, I actually asked one of my sisters if I could get married in Jamaica, even though that’s where she did her wedding. I chose a different city, will choose a really different style dress, as well as I’m having my ceremony in front of ruins instead of on a beach. I would say to voice your opinions to her, but I dont think that would change anything. Maybe start researching different things she can have, or different venues that you think might make her jump ship. I’m sorry she’s doing that to you.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MrsWootz:  First off, your sister sounds like a spoiled little witch.  Some jealously perhaps??

My sister and I used to be like this some years ago.  Now I just let her be who she is.  I don’t have to compete about anything with her.  I just know WHO I AM.  If she feels the need….THAT IS BECAUSE SHE IS LACKING SOMEWHERE IN HER LIFE.

Is there a way you can with-hold particulars from her??  Just try to ignore her childish antics.  She sounds like she is just seeking attention.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

also i’m guessing that because your sister is such a crazy biotch that no matter how much money and fanciness she throws at this wedding, nothing could compare to real, genuine love and kindness between you and your husband. I’m going to guess that her entire wedding, while extravagant, will come off looking strange just because of the way she is and the way she interacts with people. Unless shes a sociopath and hides it well, people *know* how awful she is.

Just focus on your relationship and your wedding is a gorgeous reflection of YOU and YOUR HUSBAND 🙂 as a guest, its plain to see when a couple is kind and loving and when a wedding is supremely THEIRS, and its a whole other situation to see a wedding where the entire thing seems off and just doesn’t seem like they put a lot of thought into it. 

@MrsWootz:  

 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Eh yeah I get being upset, however your wedding is first.  So she will look the fool. However I do have to say just remember a wedding is supposed to be about two people who love each other committing their lives together. A wedding is just a day.  So I would just shrug your shoulders plan YOUR day and just let your sister look like a fool 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

She’s going to look like a nitwit who can’t think for herself.  People will remember that it’s the same venue etc.  You did it first, no one can take that away from you.  It’s a sad reflection on her that she’s so ridiculous and has to copy your ideas.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Your sister sounds like a spoiled brat. It is sad that she is so petty as to try and out-compete you in everything. No wonder you feel the way you do! I certainly would not be helping her with any further wedding planning. I kind of pity her FH.

It is unlikely you will be able to change her behavior or copycat ways. What you need to do is change your reaction to what she does. Do NOT let her get to you!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yeah, I remember details that I’ve seen before at weddings…..everyone is just going to think she’s a copycat. It’s not going to matter if its slightly “better”, it’s going to look like a copy. I’m guessing a lot of the same family is going to be there too…they’ll remember.

The original is always better 🙂

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