Post # 1
I am in a bit of an awkard situation and don’t know what to do. To start I hate confrontation and even more I hate talking about things dealing with money.
So here is the back story. Darling Husband and I went away last week for a week. Since we went away with our entire family we needed to get someone to watch our pets. Dog and 3 cats. In the past we have brought in a very well trusted pet sitter. She is great, treats our pets great. She stays at the house overnight and takes great care of them.
Now I don’t know HOW I did this but I overpaid her by $260!!! I was really crazed before we were leaving, trying to pack, take care of my 7 month old and just all over the place and for some reason I thought that last time she sat for us we paid her $520. I totally didn’t think of it until we were on vacation and I am laying in my beach chair and I literally said HOLY SHART! I told my husband and he was like OMG you def overpaid, we paid her $520 last summer because we went away twice, so I think that is where I got my number from!
Anyway, I realized this on a Thur, she called that night and said her grandfather had passed and she needed leave on Fri for the funeral. We were coming back on Sun. I felt horrible for her, and I didn’t say anything about the money.
She did a great a job while we were gone, however, I am annoyed because I totally overpaid her and she left 2 days before we were supposed to return, which then we had to cut our vacation short and come home.
My Mom thinks I need to call her or email her and say something but I feel so uncomfortable now and how do I now say I want that money back and she is probably still away dealing with her family loss.
Any thoughts? Do I just eat the loss or do I say something?
Post # 3
I vote eat the loss. But I am as anti-confrontational as they come.
Post # 4
That’s tricky. She may have wondered why you paid her so much, but with her grandfather’s passing away to deal with maybe didn’t think about it much yet. Maybe she will say something to you a little later. I don’t know what I would do. I probably wouldn’t say anything, but, then again, $260 is a lot of money, it’s not like it was only $20 over.
I would give her a little time to mention it to you. If she doesn’t, maybe you should send her a carefully worded email explaining your screw-up, what happened and why, etc. Hopefully she’ll understand and give you the money back, or at least give you a free pet-sitting session for your credit balance. Good luck!
Post # 5
I hate confrontation as much as you do, but $260 is a lot of money! If it were me and Darling Husband, we would HAVE to deal with the awkward conversation out of financial necessity.
I would probably give it a few days, and then just be up front about it. “This is really embarassing, but I was just looking at my checkbook and it looks like I may have written your check for the wrong amount. I’m sure I just confused in the rush of leaving for our trip, but I wanted to double-check with you: Did I write it for $520 or $260?” I wouldn’t wait too long, because if she hasn’t deposited it yet you can just exchange the old check for a new one and move on with less hassle.
Post # 6
I’d definitely bring it up and get my money back. This isnt really being confrontational or not.. its just an awkward situation. Do you have an agreement in how much she would be paid in writing? Did you pay her with a check?
Post # 7
I would definitely think that if your sitter had a decent level of integrity they would not be upset by the fact that you want to correct your mistake. Especially since she was unable to stay for the full time. Of course she is hoping that it wasn’t a mistake and is probably going to let it drop if you don’t mention it, but you should be able to request it back without any problems and it shouldn’t damage your relationship either, if it does then do you really want to do “business” with this person anyway. I’m sure other people will do a great job.
Post # 8
Well, how about when things settle down with her grandfather, you can talk to her about how you overpaid her and but let her keep it as a credit for the future when you go away again?
Post # 9
Ehh…I tend to disagree with the mojority of posters on here. Granted, I know $260 is a nice chunk of change, but unless the $260 means the OP is eating ramen noodles, I’d say just let it go for now. I mean, the girls Grandfather just died! I would just call it a very nice tip and move on.
However, if you need to use this person again, then when you contact her about pet-sitting again, I would bring it up that you overpaid (and technically, she owes you a few days of petsitting) and see if you can give her a reduced payment for the next job.
EDIT: Wow! WonderBee – talk about posting the same thing at the same time!
Post # 10
@Rock Hugger: Great minds think alike. And at the same time. =P
Post # 11
Why not see if she will apply it toward a future pet sit? Or tell her you looked at your check book and you realize you over paid her.
Post # 12
@Rock Hugger: I agree. I would never ask for the money back. But I would see if she would apply some credit to a future job.
Post # 13
You guys wouldn’t want to get your $260 back? I’m not known for being cheap by any means, but that is an honest mistake and is a lot of money for pet sitting. You paid her double! If she hasn’t deposited it yet, I’d definitely either call or send an email explaining the mix up. If she has already deposited it, and you plan to use her services in the future, I’d leave the decision up to her and see if she’d rather refund you the $260 or apply it toward future pet sitting.
ETA and if she takes your offer to apply it toward future pet sitting, I’d get it in writing. Just in case 🙂
Post # 14
I would definitely ask for it back. It’s really sad that she’s going through a tough time but it’s not as if she’s having money troubles and you’re taking food out of her mouth. Her personal life is personal, and this is business. I would just say that you looked at your checkbook and realized your mistake. Honestly, if I were you I would be a little bit upset that she didn’t mention it.
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I think you need to give the girl a few weeks to grieve, then ask for a refund of the last 2 days when she was not available to perform the duties. At the rate that you gave her, about $74/day, you’ll get a refund of $148.57. You will still be out money, but you’ll at least re-coup some of it. And you will learn a lesson to confirm the amount that you owe before writing the check. You really cannot otherwise hold her responsible for your mistake.
Post # 16
I would definitly tell her you made a mistake.. hopefully she will do the rigth thing and give you back the extra money. there is absolutly nothign wrong with telling her you made a mistake.. but if you dont say anything you probably wont get it back. So def say something..