- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
My mother is completely overbearing. i am 23 years old, married and in law school, I take care of myself and my husband just fine. She will text me like every day saying did you do this? Did you do that? You shouldn’t do this, you cant do that.
Example: We adopted a puppy in January and my mom calls me yelling at me, how I could do this without consulting her and it’s a horrible idea we shouldn’t have another puppy, going on and on. Meanwhile my husband and I don’t live with her, don’t rely on her for financial support or anything. I finally had to tell her that what my husband and I did with our martial home isnt her business.
Example two: She has been very vocal that she thinks my husband has a drinking proble, he doesn’t she just doesn’t like drinking. Also that the way I am decorating my house is ugly becuase I am using bright colors and not various shades of beige like her house is.
The latest one from her that rubs me the wrong way was she said I am not allowed to have a baby until I finish with law school. Not that I was planning on it but it’s not her decision. My husband wanted to knock me up before he deploys later this year. (I quickly squashed that one, I refuse to be pregnant or have a baby when he isnt here) It’s not my mothers place to tell me when it is acceptable for me to have a child. She can say she would be upset or doesn’t think it’s a good idea but to expressly tell me and my husband that we are “not allowed to” or “cant” is out of line.
Shes on my back about money constantly also even though we are in ok financial shape and my husband provides well for us.
I just cant deal with her anymore.