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I've seen a number of people who have stated that they like [x] but don't want to have it at their wedding because it's not unique. However, I think that we tend to lose sight of the fact that even though something is featured on a wedding planning website, that doesn't mean it's done all the time in the real world. So, if you've been to a few weddings, what "overdone" things have you never encountered? I'll start: candy bar (sigh*), bride wearing a dress with pick-ups, cupcakes (sigh*), bunting, dudes in Converse, birdcage veil, and vintage or damask decor. I'm sure there are more, but that's all that comes to mind right now.
And some of the "overdone" stuff I have encountered was only because it was in our wedding: mismatched wedding party outfits, bridesman/groomswoman, colored bridal shoes, and wearing a fascinator rather than a veil.
*Seriously - I need to go to weddings with more dessert options. Don't get me wrong - I love cake. But being able to carry a bag of candy home with me after a wedding reception would rock.
Such a great point! Having just gotten married in December, I can tell you that the things I thought were "overdone" (but I didn't care because I liked them anyway!) seemed perfectly original to my guests... like a 'faux' photo booth (they LOVED it), creative table names instead of numbers, and a main dessert that wasn't cake (we had pie).
Personally, I've never been to a wedding with a candy bar, either - still waiting! LOL
Never encountered mustaches on sticks. Nor a photobooth for that matter, OR a fauxtobooth. I've never seen a birdcage veil, "yay" ribbon sticks to wave for the exit, loooooong table seating for the reception, bird cake toppers, or colored shoes under the wedding dress.
I DID see pickups on a dress and a candy buffet at the same wedding, and I think I was the only one who wasn't pissing myself over the candy buffet. Too jaded I guess :(
Oh and this isn't a trend at all, but I've never been to a Jewish wedding, so I've never seen the Hora and I REALLY want to.
We had cupcakes and a candy buffet, and people raved about both. I still had people at Christmas raving about our candy buffet. Nobody had ever seen anything like that. With how much time I spent on wedding blogs before the wedding, I really thought it might be overdone, but it defintely wasn't the case in real life.
Candy/cookie buffet, mustaches on sticks, birdcage veil, bird cake toppers, pie, chalkboards, silhouettes, parasols, vintage tin cans as centerpiece vases, ranunculus, typewriter guestbook, old rustic signage (wedding this way; photobooth that way etc.), vintage car instead of limo (or really, anything instead of limo), birdcages, wellies, banners (anywhere, including the aisle), dancing to music down the aisle, DIY fabric/paper flowers,
Things I HAVE seen:
Children's books being read at ceremony, colored shoes, trying to make a wedding cake look more homemade than like a wedding cake, gents in vests but no jacket (including my own wedding!), photobooths galore, table-naming, cupcakes, monograms, choreographed father/daughter dance (or choreographed 1st dance), clothespin photoline, letterpress, herbs and wildflowers (rather than more formal bouquets), "alternative" RSVP wording (including my own!), dogs in the ceremony,
...and the big pink and/or red balloon in engagement pictures. It must come with the ring or something.
@Mrs. Meowerson: We weren't all THAT creative, but here was ours:
___ Rock on!
___ Bummer
(and then there was a line after Rock on! that said something about how many people)
:)
I've never seen a lot of the 'popular' trends in person. The only one I saw recently was coloured shoes, but the shoes matched the BM dresses as well as the sash/corset detailing on the brides dress, so I think it was more a coordination thing than her trying to be trendy.
Never seen:
HAVE SEEN:
So yeah, despite the fact I see the same things over and over and over online, I feel like we have a ridiculous amount of free reign for what we decide to do for our receptions/ceremonies.
Milk glass! I will be having it at my own wedding. Might also do burlap touches and maybe even pictures on a clothesline, too -- all stuff I've seen in wedding land but never in real life!
oh! I knew I forgot something, I haven't seen any of those things (milk classes /burlap touches) in real life either and am strongly considering burlap table runners. I'm glad wedding land hasn't made it to my area much yet, makes it easier to draw inspiration and not feel like a hack haha!
I don't understand how the pick-ups in the wedding dress ended up here. My dress has pick-ups, but I've never heard of them before and I just thought it was part of the style of the dress. Is it a trendy thing?
@missmouse29: I know, I love it. That's not to say that someone who has gone to more weddings than I won't have seen it, yet, but in our circle, I am going to bet that this is going to be pretty novel. It also means I know there will be a good resale market for my vases afterwards!
@lsvogel: I've seen women on WB say that they didn't want a dress with pick-ups because it's too trendy. Personally, I think that if a person likes something, trendy or not, they should just go with it.
@redherring: Thanks! I didn't realize it was trendy. Now I know... I guess it will match my birdcage veil and my mustache on a stick. 
I guess all the weddings that I have attended must be pretty "unique", as I've basically never seen any of these so-called "trendy" wedding details in person, haha.
@lsvogel: Maybe you could also do colored shoes and a non-floral bouquet! Actually, now that I think about it, non-floral bouquets are also another "overdone" trend that I've never seen ...
There is definitely a huge, huge gap between the wedding blog world and the real world! There's also a gap between the US and UK...
Things I've never seen:
- candy/dessert table
- coloured shoes (which I am totally having!)
- wedding cake toppers (of any sort)
- bird cage veils
- a limo used as a wedding car (although I did see one being used at a wedding that I wasn't a guest for, and it was pink)
- photo-booth
- alternatives to fresh flower bouquets
- mismatched bridesmaid dresses/knee-length BM dresses (again - totally having!!!)
- centrepieces that do not involve fresh flowers
- individual tags for guests to find out their table seating (only ever seen seating charts)
- an outside ceremony (stricter laws here about where you can be married)
- any type of flag, sparkler or ribbon stick
Things I have seen:
- cupcakes
- table names (instead of numbers)
- super-sized games (twister/connect 4/etc)
- fairground games (e.g. coconut shy)
- string quartet
- vintage cars (very normal here)
RainStorm. xx
I've never seen
Never seen:
I have seen old-fashioned cars, horse-and-carriage and alternative footwear, but none more than once. Most weddings seem pretty much the same to me, and truthfully, I'm okay with that.
Oooo! Also never seen:
- out of town bags
- extras for guests (e.g. flipflops / pashminas)
- any pet involvement
- the bride changing outfit during the day/evening
I have seen a choreographed dance though :)
@deliciousappleblue: I think that "Actually, anything on sticks" is awesome. Clearly, more weddings need to have things on sticks.
@redherring: Lol! Favours on sticks, cake on sticks, place settings on sticks, top hats on sticks (to go with the mustaches)... the list is endless!
Oh, and I have never seen a bride change between the ceremony and reception. Unless you count taking off her shoes, which most of them do.
This is a great thread! I haven't been to as many weddings recently but here's what I have seen -
Just once: Candy buffet, tea length bridesmaid dresses, manzanita centerpieces, horse drawn carriage for the bride, bride changing her outfit, mix of long and round tables, polaroid guestbook, photo mat instead of guestbook, a choreographed first dance, smores over an outside fire (that was freakin awesome).
At least a few times: fun invitations/RVSPs, out of town bags, funky seating chart instead of escort cards, viennese tables (always in addition to cake)
At my wedding that I have not seen before: photobooth, flip-flops & pashminas, mercury glass
Never: colored shoes, faux-tobooth, cupcakes, macarons, sparklers, anything on sticks, bunting, grooms/men in anything but tuxes, table "names", wooden signs, chalkboard signs, mason jars, milkglass, anything other than fresh flower bouquets, pets, etc.....
Agreed about DAMASK! I have seen it a billion times online, but never been to a wedding where it was being used!
I don't care what anyone says, if I like any of these things (and can afford it) I'm using it! Baha :) I want to do a photobooth but don't have the budget for it.
Never Seen: bunting (what is that?), dudes in Converse, or dudes in vests, birdcage veil, damask decor, bridesman/groomswoman, ncountered mustaches on sticks (not sure why they say it's overdone), any kind of special transportation (we're going away in his car).
Seen: bride wearing a dress with pick-ups, cupcakes, mismatched wedding party outfits, vintage decor, candy bar, colored bridal shoes, photobooth, donuts for a cake, cheesecake for cake, birdcages (i'm having this in my wedding :)
@redherring: I have never seen the guys wearing chucks, cupcakes, birdcage veils, short dresses, candy bars, photobooths, reception send off.
@red herring: I'm going to put my groom on a stick!! I hear they're much easier to keep track of that way.
Overdone things I have never seen before that will be done some more at my wedding: aforementioned dress with pickups, birdcage veil, colored shoes, dog as ringbearer, photobooth, photobooth guest book, knee-length, mismatched wedding party outfits, viennese table (it's a must-have in New Jersey) chalkboards, partridge in a pear tree...
and moustaches.on.sticks!!!
I've seen a lot of photobooths, coloured shoes, and pickups! Never seen candy bars though...would love to!
I want a taco truck to pull up at my reception at midnight! Oh, or the Oscar Mayer weinermobile!!
This is a great post!
I've never seen:
I'm sure there is more, but that's all I can think of for now. Just goes to prove that all the things we think are so common/overdone because we talk about them often on the boards/see them on the wedding blogs, really aren't that common in the real world!
There is a lot I have not seen, but from reading everyone's responses... we are going to have a lot in our wedding:
-Rooftop wedding/reception
-Photobooth
-Cigar Bar
-Coloured Shoes
-Candy Bar
-Chinese sky (or wish) lanterns
-Vintage car
I've never seen table names instead of numbers (although we got talked into doing this for ours since everyone we know loves the idea so much, lol).
I've also never been to a wedding with manzanita branches, probably because they're so difficult to import into Canada. I totally love them, though, and we managed to stumble upon the one local florist who has them, so my wedding will be the first one I've been to that includes manzanita.
Also no photobooths, converse, bunting, midnight snack, or any kind of send-off.
@RainStorm: Super-sized games? Who plays? Are these outdoors? How FUN!
I've never seen anything like that, but I'm now googling.
ETA - Just found this link - these would be great for a backyard bbq!
this is such a good point. there are so many things that us wedding blog addicts think are overdone, but have never actually seen them in real life. i mean, i am doing a peacock wedding and keep telling myself how overdone it is. but hello! i have never been to a peacock wedding in real life!
and although i see them all over the blogs, i have never been to a wedding that uses a typewriter for a guest book, or that has a candy buffet (although i am having one). i also have not been to a wedding that has vintage-y decor, or the use of signage (rustic looking or paper). i HAVE been to a wedding that had a photobooth and mustaches on a stick, but that was my sister-in-law and she is just as wedding blog obsessed as all of us!
I would totally have to agree with you! I havent been to many weddings considering I have a HUGE extended family, but what seems to be "Overkill/Overdone" is NEW&NICE to me! lol.
I have never been to a wedding with these things:
-Wine Box/Love Letters
-Wishing Tree
-Photobooth or FauxBooth
-MisMatched Bmaids Dresses/Outfits
-Men in the Brides Bridal Party
-THEMED weddings! I go to a lot of "color themey" weddings, but thats it! I'd love to go to an "Alice in Wonderland Wedding" or a "Halloween Wedding"
This thread makes me so happy -- I've been determinedly marching forth with my mason jars and cupcakes and wondering if everyone's going to roll their eyes at my passe-ness, but it's great to get some outside of wedding-world perspective :D
Haha I was JUST thinking this to myself after telling myself i shouldn't do these things because EVERYONE else is doing it, then I thought, wait, I am obsessed with weddings and look at like a thousand(exxageration lol) wedding sites a day! of course they look like its done to death to me. I am sure a lot of people including myself havent seen them at every wedding they go to, It will be special because its yours and everyone has their own spin and unique ways of executing these trends!
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