Overenthusiastic MOH = unwilling and overwhelmed BMs

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Can you say to her something like this?  “Look MOH, I LOVE that you’re so excited about planning these amazing things for me, but I get the feeling that the other BM’s aren’t as gung ho about it and I’m totally cool with that.  Let’s plan something that everyone is going to agree with and enjoy!”

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

theEguarantee:  Ahhhh! Me tooo! So funny, in a sad way haha.

My cousin is the MOH and she’s not working right now/has a lot of time to plan, which is AWESOME. But my BMs have expressed they are annoyed that they are constantly receiving messages and my MOH is planning a bachelorette that they think is too much money.

It’s hard… what do you do?!? It seems as though someone will be disappointed. I just told her to scale down the price and plan something more low-key. Bascially said I didn’t care what we did I just wanted everyone to be there to celebrate! Things have been on hold for a little bit because of the summer, but planning will resume again in Sept. I haven’t heard anything else, so either they’re on the same page or no one is telling me. Either way I’m too busy planning the wedding, haha.

I know it’s hard, but just tell her/other BMs that you’re busy planning the wedding and you trust them to figure it out. Then move on.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

theEguarantee:  As you shouldn’t be, just take a step back. A lot of things get miscontrued over text/fb messages and it’s hard when they’re not together. The next time my bridal party will all be together is Nov. 1 for our stag and doe… it’s hard when they’re all over.

Utimately, they love you and want the best for you. I drove myself crazy over this issue, then you just realize you have to let go. Things WILL work out. Take a walk, paint your nails. Those are my ‘happy places’ haha.

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