Overly Emotional

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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387 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yes! All the time! It sounds like you had a wonderful group of people who care for you at your shower, enjoy that feeling! I know I’ll be a mess at mine next year!

 

Post # 4
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1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@smrlovingrl:  I am fairly certain I’m going to collapse into a ball of grateful tears at my own shower next month, lol. And I’m sorry about your grandfather, hon. My grandfather has nonhodgkin lymphoma, and we found out yesterday that his chemo treatment did not work. He is too old to do radiation, so we don’t know what will happen. He is supposed to walk me and give me away…so I’ve been a bit of a mess about that since yesterday as well. And missing my own grandparents (my grandmom only got to see 2 of her grandkids – out of around 12 – get married. If my granddad passes, it will be the same for him as well. And my father’s parents have been dead since I was 4 and 11, respectively). I’m sure it’s normal. Just..instead of being sad that it’s over, be excited and grateful that it happened and you have all of these amazing memories to treasure heading into your new life.

Post # 6
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258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@smrlovingrl:  Yes! Weddings, I have learned, are emotional reckonings. They force us to address any and all outstanding emotional issues in our lives. The most common response to this, I believe, is general high-alert ball of emotion type behavior. But the good news is this – as brides, we get a free pass! We can cry at the drop of a hat, and no one will think we’re crazy. 

At least that what we’ll tell ourselves, right? 🙂 

Post # 7
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1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@smrlovingrl:  I told him if I had to roll him up the steps in a wheelchair or spin him in circles in the thing at the reception, I would. He wants to take me himself, so I hope he can.

It may be a bit late for this detail, but my caterer informed me that my venue has two small round 4′ tables that are not on our contract but are always present, and she uses them all the time. FI and I discussed it and we are going to do a table dedicated to our grandparents. His grandmother died on Memorial Day of 2012, and he was very close to her. My grandmother died in Nov of 2011. There are actually a lot of really beautiful ideas for this type of thing on Pinterest. I particularly like the saying, “We know you would be here today if heaven weren’t so far away.” Maybe you can do something like that for yours? Get some photos of them with you when you were little, things like that? It’d be a very meaningful gesture, and I think it would kind of give you the feeling that they were there with you in a way. At least, that’s kind of what I am hoping for for ours..^^; I am also doing an honorary seat for FI’s grandmother and my own, with their respective favorite flowers and ribbons in their favorite colors (which will later go in a vase on the memorial table).

I also agree that weddings are emotional rollercoasters. It’s such a huge deal to plan, it’s so many people in one place, so many that mean a lot to you, so many feelings, excitement, fear, dread (for me at tripping over my dress trying to climb the gazebo stairs hahaha), love, joy, all at once. That, of nothing else, is a surge of chemicals that your brain goes “I need to dump this!” over and makes you cry, lol!

Post # 8
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158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

OMG, I’m SOOO emotional as well about my wedding, and I’m still a waiting Bee! My wedding is the first event in my life when I will really feel my late father’s absence and everything to do with it makes me cry at some point. I don’t get emotional when I go to the cemetary, and I’ve never really gotten emotional about it with other life events over the past 15 years. For some reason the combination of wedding and deceased dad sends me into serious emotional basketcase mode!

I’m so sorry to hear about the recent passing of your grandfather. Grandparents are so special, and I can’t imagine what it would be like to deal with that so close to your wedding day.

Post-wedding, focus on the new things so you don’t get the blues! There is lots of happiness in life, it doesn’t just end when something is over. You just have to find the next thing to get excited about!

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