overly stressed about wedding

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
45 posts


Sorry you are stressing!  Family and money can play big roles in decision making, but remember that you are the one in charge!

Just to clarify — the ceremony is in one month and the reception in a  year and one month?  

If so, here’s how I see your options?

1- Have the tea ceremony/party you want (and pay for it yourself).  You have to deal with your family being pissed.  Only you know: a) how pissed they will be, b) if they will eventually get over it, and c) how much you care about a and b.

2- Elope!  Just do it now and have a party for friends and family however you want.  Downsides are: see option #1.  However possibly your family will be less upset since you did not have a traditional ceremony?

3- Keep status quo and start standing firm with the restaurant coordinator.  If she doesn’t comply with what you want, tell her you want your deposit back.   Unless what you are trying to do violates your contract with the restaurant or the restaurant’s/locality’s rules, you should be able to have the celebration you want.  Stand firm. 

4- Keep looking for a better venue and be ok with ponying up $2.

5- postpone your wedding until you can have a ceremony and reception you want to pay for.


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