Overopinionated Groom: You care about WHAT?!

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@mu_t:  I know how you feel. My FI is planning everything and he is incredibly opinionated on everything from flower colour to flight times. The wedding is more for him than me (we are already legally married, so I could care less for a wedding – just sign me up for the honeymoon!) so I just smile and let him do his thing.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

Haha take that as a compliment that he is seriously invested in your (collective “your”) day! My guy had a few opinions that we agreed on, but a lot of times I asked, he was like “I dunno, it’s up to the girl. I’m just along for the ride”.

He was oddly opinionated when trying to choose dishes and a bed set for the registry, though. Everything he loved reminded me of a bachelor pad (everything must be black, dark blue, or silver!!) so we had to seriously compromise on some stuff there. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

He just comes up with weird ideas for stuff sometimes, where I’m just like. yeaaaaaaah, no.

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@mu_t:  My guy doesn’t care too much about all the details, but he is fairly insistent on two weird things:

– he wants to be BAREFOOT during the ceremony.  So now we have to work around that to find an outfit that won’t look totally bizarre with bare feet.  

– in addition to the cornhole, bocce ball, ladder golf, etc during cocktail hour, he really wants to have a tricycle jousting tournament.  Haha!  I told him I’m down if he organizes it.

What a weird but adorable man.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

My fiance has been completely laid back and totally awesome with all of the planning… except favours. I said we don’t need them but the one thing he is passionate about is having them. So weird! Of course we’re having them, I’m super happy to accommodate the one thing he wants.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

@mu_t:  DH was very involved (BM dress color for instance).  I loved it!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@mu_t:  Mine cares about pretty much everything other than flowers.  This is a man who could not buy his own clothes and got nervous in department stores a year ago.  He actually seems to enjoy dress shopping, has a favorite bridal salon, has a favorite dress, and has learned a little of the dress terminology.  I’m beyond flattered.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@mu_t:  lol, we are just getting rolling with the planning process, but my FI is pretty opinionated, LOVES planning parties but he’s got crazy good taste so we’re actually having a lot of fun.  I’m actually really glad he’s so into it!

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

FI has been really picky about stupid stuff. Like our cake… I don’t care for elaborate cakes and wanted a simple white cake with minimal decoration. He imagined something more along the lines of this …

…yea…. NO!…

But I think the funniest thing was his suggestion that we rap our wedding vows. Im no rapper, thank you very much. he doesn’t even like rap! lol but he thought it would be hysterical if we showed off our rapping skills (i have none!) during our wedding vows. most definitely not going to happen lol

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

My guy and I are planning every detail together since it will be both of our days. He corrects me all the time when I say “my wedding,” whoops. He’s also insistent on being present when I’m dress shopping since he wants me to pick something that will “go with our ideas” — I’ve definitely drawn the line there. I want the dress surprise to be the traditional aspect of our wedding! Other than that, we agree on everything, but he has given me a lot of leeway on things that he wouldn’t have personally done had he been planning on his own (brunch wedding, sunrise ceremony).

@jdhall89:  I just gigglesnorted at your FI having a fave bridal salon, so adorable!

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

pretty much the only thing FI doesn’t want anything to do with is flowers and my dress (for obvious reasons). Everything else he’s had some opinion. To the point that I don’t even show him options of things. We either set aside time to pore over them together (invitations, for instance) and narrow it down to the samples we want and then go from there or he picks his favorites of something, I pickmy favorites and we compare. He even has his own wedding Pinterest page! His new thing is that he wants to process in to music too because he should be special like me. So he picked a song he liked and I asked if he’d be okay if his groomsmen and groomsmaids walked in to that too and he said he thinks so. Anybody have any advice about groom processional logistics? He doesn’t want to just sneak in the side of the altar.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Count me in, as well.

My guy has always been very aware and interested in how our home looks and how he looks, and takes very good care to make sure everything decoration-wise coordinates, etc. So, I figured he’d have some opinions on certain things, but leave the majority of stuff up to me.

Negative: he is as involved and interested as me, and has an opinion on everything. He helped me pick my dress and will definitely put his 2 cents in as far as hair and accessories. In addition, *he* picked our colors (silver and orange) and gave in to allow some pink.

I’m pretty sure if I stepped back right now,  he’d plan the entire thing.

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

DH cared about everything, down to the flowers.  It was insane. 

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