(Closed) Overseas weddings

posted 5 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Congratulations!

We’re not engaged yet but we’ve been having the same thoughts, we are in Singapore.  The deal breaker for me is my grandparents.  They can’t fly anymore because of their ages: 91 and 86 (in fact, I think they never renewed their passports anyway) and they are very important to me.

Also, SOs family couldn’t afford it and it would be like asking them to go into debt or not bother to come which seemed kind of mean.  If your immediate family can afford it, or you’re willing to pay to get them there then do it.  Once we factored in flying his family here, it’s cheaper for us to get home even though the cost of a wedding is cheaper here than in the UK.

But that’s all dependant on if you want them there or not.  For us personally, family is too important and no doubt both our mothers would be really heartbroken if we “eloped” (eloped where we live?), we couldn’t do that to them.

Those are my thoughts.

Whatever you decide though, I’m sure you’ll have a perfect wedding. (My parents live in Thailand too)

Welcome to the hive!

Post # 5
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3622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

@island_bee:  It’s definitely a tough one.  I do agree with the “it’s your wedding” comment but ultimately it’s because it’s my (our) wedding that I want to make everyone happy.  Ever the people pleaser!  There’s always the option of making sure to have a nice dinner with the people that can’t come when you are in Australia next.  I think I have the “fairness” factor in mind in our scenario, I wouldn’t want more of my family to come just because of cost if that makes sense.

Regarding our engagement: me too!  He asked my Dad for his blessing in July 2011, I’m still waiting. Procrastination I think. But it’s easy to get addicted 🙂

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