(Closed) Oversharing or Out of line?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Perhaps it would be best to leave your wedding any other personal vents to yourself at work. I think when you discuss your personal business you opened the door and they probably would just trying to be helpful. I don’t know what industry you work in, but I find that highly unprofessional to be speaking so in depth about your “stress” and personal business at work.

Even if I am having a tough time or annoyed with whats going on, if someon

e ask I say everything is fine and move on. I do have one or two work friends and if I had to vent, I would vent to them out of the office.

I just think keeping your venting to weddingbee, friends, and your Fi would be a smater move going forward. Good luck and I hope your stress works its self out!

Post # 4
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9625 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t talk to this person about your wedding stress anymore.  She seems to want to stir up drama and negativity.  You don’t need that.

Post # 6
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4315 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

She doesn’t know enough about you & your FI, so she’s making assumptions.  I’d stop talking about it altogether.

Post # 7
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8431 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree with PP’s that I wouldn’t discuss anything else with her. She knows you are stressed and now it’s only adding fuel to the fire by her creating other things to possibly upset you. Is she known to be a drama type of person? Either way keep it strickly work related with her and maybe find another friend to talk wedding stuff too.

Post # 9
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11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

IMO, work friends are different from non-work friends. I’d keep the wedding vent sesh to a minimum at work.

Post # 12
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12568 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree, try to leave the drama out of the office.  Unless it’s a really good friend, they probably don’t want to hear the drama.  Actually, your really good friends probably also don’t want to hear it all the time, either.

Post # 14
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7466 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yes– to all your questions. Also remember people give your their POV mostly based on their expereinces. So try not to take it so personal. Lesson learned don’t discuss personal matters with her again. Vent to the Bee.

Post # 15
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4804 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you’re venting about wedding planning pretty frequently but never mention your FI, she probably assumed that he isn’t really helping much, which would explain why she said that. If you do consider her a friend and are inviting her to your wedding it seems kinda strange to never mention your FI, so I do think you’re opening yourself up to this. She was not crossing any lines, in my opinion, because you are the one who keeps bringing up how stressed you are from wedding planning, and her response was a pretty natural reaction.

And I hate to say it but she might of been trying to hint that she is kind of sick of hearing about the wedding planning and that you SHOULD be talking to your FI about it…not her. Other people can generally only handle so much wedding talk before it starts to drive them a bit nuts, that’s what weddingbee is great for!

Post # 16
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2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Wonderstruck:  Ding ding ding. When someone overshares with me about their life problems or somewhat-related-to-relationship problems, I always say, “What does your boyfriend thing about this?” 

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