(Closed) Overstepping?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think this is a difference in your two families.  In my family, this would not be overstepping any of sort of boundaries.  But I could definitely see FI flipping out if I did this.  He still thinks it’s weird that we buy a Christmas present for FSIL’s son. 

If it’s going to ruffle his feathers so much, I would just return it.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i know in my family and FI’s family it might be “overstepping” to buy the baby’s first christmas ornament…. i guess its kind of a personal special thing for the parents of the child to do. But I think its different in every family…. i’d follow your FI on this one. 

A nice thoughtful gesture on your part though 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I agree with hotchild.  In my family it wouldn’t be a big deal, but if it will cause potential problems in his, I would return it and get something different.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

No, not weird at all to me… I bought an our first christmas ornament for M’s cousin’s and when she opened it she was sort of like bleh.. I am soo glad they also got a bottle of champagne and wine flutes!!  I would personally have loved it and the sentiment attached.  What type of woman is your fsil?  Is she girlie and sentimentally (yes I made up a word, if so she’ll probably love it!) after all he is a dude so he may not be too up to spped on this.. can you mention it to your fmil and see what she says?

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t think its overstepping at all.  When my daughter’s first Christmas rolled around I got like 6 baby’s first Christmas ornaments.  Some don’t make it on the tree every year- but so what? It was still thoughtful of the people to give them.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Based on what some of the previous posters have said, it does seem to vary from family to family. I know that my parents were given multiple ornaments for each of us when we were born, so I don’t think it’s overstepping any kind of boundary.

I don’t know of any rule that says a baby is allotted only one first Christmas ornament, and if it was me I would still give it (unless he’s really dead-set against it). Maybe ask MIL what her opinion is and if she would think it’s weird.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

Weird… this sounds so cute and I can’t imagine it being an offensive gift in any way!  But I guess as others have noted, it must vary from family to family.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Unless your FI throws an absolute fit, I’d give it to her! I think it’s sweet!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I can’t imagine why your gift would offend anyone. My in-laws got us several “first Christmas together” ornaments last year and I was delighted by their thoughtfulness.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

In my hubby’s family, it would be fine, but I could absolutely see my mom getting upset if someone else bought a baby’s first Christmas ornament for one of her grandkids, just b/c she always has to be the first to do that kind of stuff. I think that if it will ruffle feathers, maybe you could just get one for the baby that had the year on it rather than baby’s first Christmas?

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