Post # 1
So, I started my fitness to journey to better health a little over a year ago. I was a heavy size 18 in jeans, almost a 20, and a 24/2x in shirts due to big boobs. I weight around 265. I was a mess.
But then I started to thinking about our upcoming engagement, wedding and our future family. I did not want to be so overweight for our wedding and I didn’t want to bring kids into this world being that overweight. I wanted to be around for my future family
With a lot of support from my FH, I started to do Wii EA active fit 2 and started to watch what I ate. I started jogging last summer (found out I really love to run). And recently started going to these awesome fitness classes with my FMIL.
I am now fitting into size 12 jeans, and because of the boobs still have to wear a plus size shirt. I had to order my wedding dress in a size 22 because of the boobs.
But here is my problem, even though I have lost close to 35lbs and inches, and am a much smaller size, I still feel like the bigger me. I look in the mirror and see the 265lbs. It really sucks cause I want to feel like the 230lbs that I am. I know I am smaller, but I still have this huge mental block about it.
So Bee’s who have lost a lot of weight, what made you start thinking and feeling that you were the smaller you? How long did it take?
It might help if I stopped wearing my old clothes. But I feel comfy in them. I don’t know. I am just looking for support from those who have been there and how they overcame this mental block.
Post # 3
I’ve lost about 45 lbs. in the past year or so myself, and I still have the issue of feeling like my larger self too. I was about a 24 in pants and an 20 on top. What has helped though is that I’ve been fitting into some ‘skinny’ jeans that I had prior to gaining all of the weight. Knowing I couldn’t wear them for about 3 years, and now they’re baggy on me, is definitely a confidence booster.
I would look into getting some clothes you wouldn’t have previously thought of buying or wearing before you lost the weight. Knowing that you can fit into them now might be what you need to start feeling great about your weight loss!
Great work, btw! 🙂 I know how hard it is!
Post # 4
@jatelynn: congratulations on your weight loss!
I have lost about 100lbs over the past two years and what really helped me was new clothes. i used to hit up nordstroms every Friday to try on designer jeans. I was so happy when jeans that didn’t fit suddenly zipped up no problem! And even better when some were even too big for me.
I still have some of my old clothes, mostly sweaters and I always feel so frumpy in them. They don’t fit are unflattering and just make me feel bad. I keep them for a reminder though!
i will tell you that sometimes I see myself in the mirror and can’t believe it’s me. I am so tiny compared to my old self. I was getting dressed the other day for a very professional event and had FH take a picture of me in my tank top as I pretended it was a dress. I’ve looked at this picture 100 times because I can’t believe it’s me! It definitely takes a while to get used to it, but celebebrate your weight loss because you did it, and it’s not an easy thing to do!
Post # 5
@jatelynn: First, congrats!!!!
So I have not lost a significant amount of weight, but my sister has and we talk a lot about it.
First, stop wearing your old clothes! Buy some clothes that fit you and make you feel good. That will go a long way. In fact, that may go the longest way in making you feel better.
Next, I would choose a mantra for yourself. It sounds silly, but pick something positive and say if to yourself in the morning when you are dressed (in the right sized clothes) and looking in the mirror.
And congrats again!
Post # 6
I lost 110 pounds (from 246 to 136). It’s really difficult for me to feel like the “new” me, I’m currently looking into skin removal surgery to help (I have around 5-10 lbs of extra skin). What I do sometimes is hold an old picture of myself next to me and look in the mirror. I feel SUPER proud of myself and I REALLY see the difference. I also think you need to sell or donate all of your “too big” clothing. Start purchasing clothing in a smaller size and buy pieces that will last a while that you can mix and match (since it’s expensive to buy all new clothes). If you plan on losing more weight, then I would just get a few things at a time as you go down sizes. Doing other little things like getting a pedicure or a new hair cut will also help. Be very proud of yourself, it is something that is really hard!
Post # 7
I went from 180 to 125 (currently 130ish, which I am comfortable with) and after maintaining a healthy weight for almost 20 years my advice is:
1. Buy new clothes on your journey, even if you have to shop at used or consignment stores. Properly fitting clothes make all of the difference in how you look and feel about yourself.
2. T’is better to be thinner and feel heavier and therefore more aware of your dietary choices, than to be heavier and feel thin. When I feel thinner, I get complacent until my clothes and scale remind me to smarten up and eat right.
Post # 8
2 words: body dysmorphia. Congrats on your weight loss, btw!!! One thing that has helped me see the weight loss is looking at before and after pictures in a collage right next to each other like frequently throughout the day. I still don’t see it in the mirror but I see it in pictures. =)
Post # 9
@jatelynn: over the last 6 years I have dropped 120 pounds total. I still dont fell like the smaller me completely. It is a psychological thing that takes a lot of time and support to understand. I went from a jean size 28 to a size 12 now. I only started feeling sexy and comfortable after I started dating my FI. He was great for support during good and bad days. Buying new clothing helps. This summer was the first time I have worn shorts since elementary school. Ive added more sexy items but still have my comfort zone being maintained. I have a feel good outfit that covers everything but still is revealing, at least to me. Either jeans or shorts with a lace tankk top with a sheer blouse over the top. I hate showing skin but it gives me a chance to be sexy but covered. I have a huge mirror in my bathroom that I wrote tons of motivators on with wax pen so I can see them when I wake up and just before bed. Congrats on the weight loss, give it time and treat yourself. I agree with @chucknorris you will see it more in a picture than anything else.