- 6 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
Hi Fellow Bees!
I’m sending this message out into cyberspace wondering if any other bees are feeling overwhelmed. And not so much with the planning or creating, but with the trying to please the entire world and getting nowhere.
Mr. Hugz comes from a very ‘simple’ family that has never done a big, formal wedding. In fact, I’m the first in the family to have received an engagement ring. Nor have any of them been to a formal, black-tie style wedding. Most of the Hugz family does outdoor weddings at the cottage, campsites, etc. You can imagine how this might be causing difficulties in trying to plan a wedding that pleases my very formal, very proper mother and also keeps the Hugz family comfortable.
Then there’s the bridesmaid issue. I only have 2 girls in my party, one is my sister and one is my best friend. Mr. Hugz has FOUR sisters so I opted to not have any of them in the party since I didn’t want 6 bridesmaids. Plus, not one of them has tried to get to know me in all the years I’ve known Mr. Hugz and so I just didn’t feel like it was appropriate. We do intend to have them participate as Ushers at the church. Turns out that yesterday Mr. Hugz’ mom made a comment about how I haven’t asked ANY of the sisters to be part of my bridal party. I felt like screaming. I don’t know how to make everyone happy and still have the wedding I want to have!
Whew, now that I’ve vented all that out I’m asking the fellow bees if you’ve gone through things like this in your planning. How do you handle it all? Any tips on how to survive these issues?