posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@butterfliesandhoney:  We decided to elope to avoid being overwhelmed, lol. We started sourcing local weddings and we began with a guest list and then venue search. Eloping still ended up being the right choice (thank god I got my deposits back).

Post # 4
4441 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@butterfliesandhoney:  You’ll likely feel more overwhelmed when reading books/magazines (I did!).  Take some time off to just enjoy being newly engaged, especially if you and FI have already decided the wedding will be a bit father out.


When you are ready to start planning I would suggest using the resources online as opposed to spending money on books/magazines.  The magazines are just full of ads (which can be fun if you’re dress shopping) but other than that the information is pretty obvious and not very helpful.  I found most didn’t apply to me if you’re not having a super traditional wedding.

Post # 5
428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I found it helpful to break the planning down into small chunks – first I decided to choose a venue, and only when that was done did I move on to something else. It really helped keep me from feeling like there was too much to do and I couldn’t handle it! 

If you do decide to marry a year from now, decide what is most important to you – is it the venue? The caterer? The photographer, a certain DJ or band? For me, the venue was the logical first choice. I found one I loved, and then I chose between the dates they had available. Once I had that, I could book other vendors in order of importance.


Good luck!

Post # 6
2884 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

id look at online wedding checklists

first stage is budget – how much do you have and who is contributing

then style of wedding – formal, informal, whatever

and tsrat looking for venues

Post # 7
4576 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Two things that have helped me:

1. Start by making a list of things in a wedding that are really important to you, and a second list of things that are not. For example, having our dogs in the wedding and having a laid back reception are really imporant to me. Customizing my dress myself is important to me.  On the “don’t care about” list, I have readings, unity candles, who walks down the aisle with whom etc. I’ve found it helps to put these things in writing to stay focused on what matters to YOU and not get overwelmed with things that don’t.

2. Take on small projects. In my latest issue of the knot, a wedding planner reccomended starting to create your “vision” with the centerpieces. She said once you have those picked out, you can plan everything else around them. I’m not messing with centerpieces, so my first project is the outfits and collars our dogs will be wearing. Why? Because it’s a project I’m actually excited about vs not-so-fun activities like the guest list.

Post # 8
3833 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Find a wedding checklist – you may not want to do everything on it, but it’ll give you an organized list of all the elements.

Major decisions to be made early – budget, venue (& thus date), & draft guest list.

I used Weddingwire for checklist, budget, seating chart, website, etc. – it was a great resource.

Post # 9
1631 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@butterfliesandhoney:  Lists. I made a list everytime I would freak out about something. Slowly the lists started to make sense and come together – some merged – others got more specific.

I didn’t use a binder but I do use One-Note – but I htink Word would do the same thing.

Some examples of my lists:

  • Budget – turned into excel sheet later
  • Vendor contact list
  • People list – bridal party, grandparents – basically everyone ‘involved’ (this helped me to decide who to buy corsages for…
  • Important dates list (turned into calendar later)
  • Music lists
  • Photog shot list
  • DIY list – used to schedule DIY sessions on calendar and to budget time out
  • To-Do list (also have people responsible listed)

  • Clothing (who is wearing what/alterations appts)
  • Decor
  • DJ/Entertainment
  • Food
  • Cake
  • Stationary (StD, Invites, programs, etc)

  • Timeline list
  • Decor list (used to make layouts with after)
  • Just write down everything thing as you think of it – get it out of your brain – then you can organize it and flesh it out as you go 🙂

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