(Closed) Overwhelmed.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Sounds like you’re dealing with a lot.  Just take a deep breath. 

If you’re aren’t sure about doing a DW after visiting, don’t do it. Have a local wedding. 

The cousin. . I’d call and just joke about the way he left.  Ask him if the cops are after him or if he stole my million dollars that was in the couch cushion.  Just enough to break the ice and figure out whats going on.

Go to the doctor. Figure out what’s going on.  If you don’t have your health, you can’t work.  Be proactive.  Be preventive.

Don’t worry. Mothers love us even when we fight with them.  Get a good night’s sleep and realize everything is okay.

Post # 4
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7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Aww I’m sorry that things are crazy!

Its one of those times where it feels like everything is crashing down and you just wish you could catch a break!

First things, first- take care of you ultrasound! Cysts and things can mess with hormones, making things even more dramatic ๐Ÿ˜‰ And you want to be in good health for your wedding ๐Ÿ™‚

Don’t worry bout your Mom, thats what their here for! We can have spats and craziness, but at the end of the day they love you and want the best for you.

I’m sure things will work out with your cousin and their arent any hard feelings. There is  a season for everything and it seems like his was ending in relation to his time spent with yall.

Where abouts in Florida is your dream DW?

Post # 5
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2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m so sorry you’re so overwhelmed. Here’s what you do:

1. Take care of yourself. Take time off work, get the ultrasound, rest, and get better. Keep it simple, try to go at the beginning or end of a busy day so that no one at work is left hanging, do your best and then don’t worry about what anyone at work thinks. Your health comes first. If you’re not healthy, how are you supposed to work?

2. Do what you and FI think is best for your wedding. Unless others are paying, it is up to the both of you and isn’t open for discussion, though it is merely a courtesy that you include others, including parents. If parents are helping out, then find the right time for everyone to sit down and have that discussion and don’t let them reel you into it when you’re just stopping by (to get the dog or whatever.) Be prepared for those kinds of confrontations and discuss when you are ready.

3. Send a quick email to the cousin citing your concern, and then forget about him. He chose to leave while you and FI were gone, increasing the awkward factor by about 1000%. If FI thinks you were responsible for making cousin leave somehow, have FI wait a few months and see if he prefers living with his cousin or without. I guarantee he’ll be happier without the cousin around. (I was in a similar situation with my FI and his best friend who was living with him and totally changing the dynamics of his household for the worse. FI tried to pin it on me even though he stated it was time for his friend to get his own place, too. FI will never admit it, but it is clear everyone is better off now that his friend has his own place.)

Good luck!

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