Post # 1
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
So, even though I consider myself mildly active and a fairly healthy eater, I’ve never been happy where I’m at (weight wise). We’re taking engagement photos at the end of the month and I tried to increase my exercise, mostly lifting small handweights and doing a few more toning exercises, but progress feels very stilted. I finally caved and downloaded Insanity (I did my first Fitness test yesterday), and I also downloaded My Fitness Pal onto my phone.
I don’t feel pumped or inspired at all. I feel angry and upset that I can’t do this on my own, that I’m too lazy to force myself without Shuan T. urging me forward (he is really positive and happy though which I really like) or that I lack self control in what I’m eating. I’m also scared I’ll mess up or won’t see any results and people will think I’m lying or not trying hard.
Please don’t get me wrong. I don’t expect, or want, to look like a fitness model. I’m not overweight, but on the higher end of “healthy” weight (according to the BMI chart) and I would like to get down to the middle to lower range and lose a couple inches all around. But I’m very afraid and already feeling like I let myself down. I’m trying to come up with a positive attitude, because I know that I want this and that I need to keep pushing myself forward. Please don’t lecture me that if I think I’ll fail then I will. I don’t need that right now. I’m just hoping to find some actual positivity or encouragement, or even just knowing that others feel this way and manage to find ways to bring themselves back up. I really want to go into this thinking empowering things, but it’s difficult right now.
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess
Losing weight is about 90% what you put in your mouth. You probably won’t see quick results working out. Although insanity is pretty gnarly and I have seen it change a few people’s physiques. My backstory: I was 275 lbs in Feb of 2013. I had gastric sleeve surgery in nov 2013. It’s been almost a year and I now weigh 184. The majority of that weight loss was because I can not eat very much food. It just proved to me that my food intake was what was making me as heavy as I was. I did start working out last February and lost about 30lbs since then.
My fitness pal is great! I have been using it since I bought my dress and I want to be about 25 lbs lighter by next year. Calorie restriction is so hard, even with a small tummy like I have. Since you are within the normal BMI limits, you don’t have much to lose at all. I think you’re on the right track, just focus on calories in, and keep on excercising. You’ll do great!
Post # 3
First of all, I think most people can sympathize with your situation! I know I do! I think that it’s easy to be stuck in a rut and not see results right away and just be frustrated when you don’t see results as soon as you want! I am marrying a strength and conditioning coach and I have to say, do NOT be afraid of weights. I was a runner all through college (recreationally, not competetively) and I never saw any faster times or lost a single pound. However, once he started telling me to switch up my distances and have recovery days, I became faster, but I found I loved the weight training days the most! I felt stronger and very in shape (don’t worry, you don’t get bulky!). Of course now I’ve been moving around and had a lack of a gym/time, so I’m just now starting from square one again, but I believe we can both get there 🙂 Also, STAY AWAY FROM THE SCALE (if you’re a scale watcher). If you need to weigh, only weigh once every week or two! I was always upset until my FI refused to let a scale enter into our house, I am far happier now! You can do this!! 🙂
Post # 4
Also, side note on my feelings towards BMI: it’s restrictive. It only takes into account height and weight. Uhh, hello? People are built so differently! What if all your weight comes from muscle? Don’t let it get you down!
Post # 5
TwinkleBoss: Don’t be discouraged that you “can’t do it alone”.
YOU took the initiative to search for a fitness program that works for you
YOU took the initiative to download the tools you need to reach your goals
No one else did this FOR you. It was your choice, and it was a good choice to make to reach your goals.
Many people seek out the help of personal trainers and follow workout programs in order to reach their goals. Why? Because not every person is a fitness expert. Not every person has the time to dedicate to researching all of the techniques to achieve goals.
Just like not everyone can or has time to do their own taxes from scratch, so they hire experts to make sure that their taxes are done correctly and most thoroughly or they buy tools/programs to facilitate doing them on their own.
Post # 6
TwinkleBoss: I’ve completed 3 rounds of Insanity over 2 years. This is NOT an easy workout and the last thing I would call you is “unmotivated” to take on this task. Insanity is not for the faint of heart.
I will share this with you, I actually gained some weight the first few weeks because my muscles were retaining fluid, so do not go by the scale with this program. Follow the meal plan with it. You will not get the results you want without it.
Fitness and healthy eating is a daily journey. One bad meal does not make you fat just like one good meal does not make you skinny. I’m about 10lbs from where I want to be thanks to having a 3month old baby, but at the end of the day, I’m eating well and working out where I can. It takes time and sometimes whatever you can do in a day to be healthy is good enough. You are only human and if you are stressing yourself out over a few pounds on the scale you are missing out on enjoying your life over something as silly as what the scale reads, especially if you are at a healthy weight.
Try not to be so hard on yourself.
Post # 7
TwinkleBoss: I was right where you were! High end of bmi active going to gym etc and nothing happening! I joined a slimming club for just 3 weeks and it really retrained my eating habits . I also kept at my gym program up to maybe 3 times a week aswell as walking my dog. 2 months later I have lost about 11lbs. I’ve been slogging this out since the about May! it does take time ppl are starting to notice nowe and comment that I look slimmer toned etc. I always keep the attached in mind. I’ve had my bad weekends I’ve had weeks where I haven’t done a tap if exercise but it really is more a lifestyle change and a long road! Best of luck!
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It’s great that you’re trying to get more active! If anything, you’re very resourceful in finding ways to boost your activity level, but don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Every little bit counts! As for the weight loss, there was a really nice thread recently from a plus size bride who in retrospect realized that it didn’t matter that she wasn’t model-sized at the wedding. You are loved for who you are, not how much you weigh.
Post # 10
Weight loss is like 90% diet. Truly. Yes it’s good for your health, shape, and metabolism to be in shape but if you want to shrink you 100% have to be competely aware of what you’re eating. I love weight watchers for this reason, the app makes it easy.
Post # 11
lift heavier weights.
i use 40 lb kettlebells and with weight machines around 30 lb and up. it will truly make a difference.
cut out white carbs, processed foods and dairy. you’ll get there!
i hate myfitnesspal. i don’t think it’s very accurate.
Post # 12
also, i suggest creating a pinterest board for weight loss inspiration! i have a separate fitness account on instagram and it has seriously motivated me! i’m on it more than my own personal one.
Post # 13
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
Thank you everyone SO much for your encouraging words. I really means a LOT to me to read your support and positivity.
Last night I did my second day of Insanity (first if you don’t count the fit test), and though it was way different than I expected I enjoyed it more than I thought I would. I only wish it hadn’t been cardio day at my tae kwon do class half an hour before, that was a little brutal lol. The stretches are also fantastic since I’m stupidly unflexible and I think they will also really help, so I’m glad he includes them and doesn’t expect people to do them on their own (since I probably wouldn’t).
Anyway, thank you guys again for taking the time to comment. I’m hoping that by working out it will have a domino effect on my diet as well, especially since now I’m keeping track with that app.
Post # 14
TwinkleBoss: Don’t be so hard on yourself! People get discouraged about fitness really quickly, maybe you could think about it in a different way. If you were learning a foreign language, would you expect to be almost fluent after a couple of weeks? Of course not! People tend to forget that muscles really need training, you have to build and build and create muscle memory- just like learning anything!
Think about something that you’re really good at that you had to learn (cooking, math, sewing, whatever it may be). Try to remember what it was like when you were first learning. As kids, everything we learn is new. Kids are used to being bad at things. As adults it’s pretty rare that we start at the very bottom rung of something and work our way up learning. That’s pretty much what you’re doing, but you’re not used to that feeling of not being good at it yet. You’ll get there, chin up! 🙂