Overwhelmed and discouraged

posted 2 years ago in Fitness
Post # 2
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1957 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess

Losing weight is about 90% what you put in your mouth. You probably won’t see quick results working out. Although insanity is pretty gnarly and I have seen it change a few people’s physiques. My backstory: I was 275 lbs in Feb of 2013. I had gastric sleeve surgery in nov 2013. It’s been almost a year and I now weigh 184. The majority of that weight loss was because I can not eat very much food. It just proved to me that my food intake was what was making me as heavy as I was. I did start working out last February and lost about 30lbs since then.

My fitness pal is great! I have been using it since I bought my dress and I want to be about 25 lbs lighter by next year. Calorie restriction is so hard, even with a small tummy like I have.  Since you are within the normal BMI limits, you don’t have much to lose at all. I think you’re on the right track, just focus on calories in, and keep on excercising. You’ll do great!

Post # 3
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173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

First of all, I think most people can sympathize with your situation! I know I do! I think that it’s easy to be stuck in a rut and not see results right away and just be frustrated when you don’t see results as soon as you want! I am marrying a strength and conditioning coach and I have to say, do NOT be afraid of weights. I was a runner all through college (recreationally, not competetively) and I never saw any faster times or lost a single pound. However, once he started telling me to switch up my distances and have recovery days, I became faster, but I found I loved the weight training days the most! I felt stronger and very in shape (don’t worry, you don’t get bulky!). Of course now I’ve been moving around and had a lack of a gym/time, so I’m just now starting from square one again, but I believe we can both get there 🙂 Also, STAY AWAY FROM THE SCALE (if you’re a scale watcher). If you need to weigh, only weigh once every week or two! I was always upset until my FI refused to let a scale enter into our house, I am far happier now! You can do this!! 🙂

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Also, side note on my feelings towards BMI: it’s restrictive. It only takes into account height and weight. Uhh, hello? People are built so differently! What if all your weight comes from muscle? Don’t let it get you down!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

TwinkleBoss:  Don’t be discouraged that you “can’t do it alone”.

YOU took the initiative to search for a fitness program that works for you

YOU took the initiative to download the tools you need to reach your goals

No one else did this FOR you. It was your choice, and it was a good choice to make to reach your goals.

Many people seek out the help of personal trainers and follow workout programs in order to reach their goals. Why? Because not every person is a fitness expert. Not every person has the time to dedicate to researching all of the techniques to achieve goals.

Just like not everyone can or has time to do their own taxes from scratch, so they hire experts to make sure that their taxes are done correctly and most thoroughly or they buy tools/programs to facilitate doing them on their own.

Post # 6
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870 posts
Busy bee

TwinkleBoss:  I’ve completed 3 rounds of Insanity over 2 years. This is NOT an easy workout and the last thing I would call you is “unmotivated” to take on this task. Insanity is not for the faint of heart.

I will share this with you, I actually gained some weight the first few weeks because my muscles were retaining fluid, so do not go by the scale with this program. Follow the meal plan with it. You will not get the results you want without it.

Fitness and healthy eating is a daily journey. One bad meal does not make you fat just like one good meal does not make you skinny. I’m about 10lbs from where I want to be thanks to having a 3month old baby, but at the end of the day, I’m eating well and working out where I can. It takes time and sometimes whatever you can do in a day to be healthy is good enough. You are only human and if you are stressing yourself out over a few pounds on the scale you are missing out on enjoying your life over something as silly as what the scale reads, especially if you are at a healthy weight.

Try not to be so hard on yourself.

Post # 7
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703 posts
Busy bee

TwinkleBoss:  I was right where you were! High end of bmi active going to gym etc and nothing happening! I joined a slimming club for just 3 weeks and it really retrained my eating habits . I also kept at my gym program up to maybe 3 times a week aswell as walking my dog. 2 months later I have lost about 11lbs. I’ve been slogging this out since the about May! it does take time ppl are starting to notice nowe and comment that I look slimmer toned etc. I always keep the attached in mind. I’ve had my bad weekends I’ve had weeks where I haven’t done a tap if exercise but it really is more a lifestyle change and a long road! Best of luck!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

It’s great that you’re trying to get more active! If anything, you’re very resourceful in finding ways to boost your activity level, but don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Every little bit counts! As for the weight loss, there was a really nice thread recently from a plus size bride who in retrospect realized that it didn’t matter that she wasn’t model-sized at the wedding. You are loved for who you are, not how much you weigh. 

Post # 10
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8025 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Weight loss is like 90% diet. Truly. Yes it’s good for your health, shape, and metabolism to be in shape but if you want to shrink you 100% have to be competely aware of what you’re eating. I love weight watchers for this reason, the app makes it easy. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

lift heavier weights. 

i use 40 lb kettlebells and with weight machines around 30 lb and up. it will truly make a difference. 

cut out white carbs, processed foods and dairy. you’ll get there! 

i hate myfitnesspal. i don’t think it’s very accurate. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

also, i suggest creating a pinterest board for weight loss inspiration! i have a separate fitness account on instagram and it has seriously motivated me! i’m on it more than my own personal one. 

good luck! 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

TwinkleBoss:  Don’t be so hard on yourself! People get discouraged about fitness really quickly, maybe you could think about it in a different way. If you were learning a foreign language, would you expect to be almost fluent after a couple of weeks? Of course not! People tend to forget that muscles really need training, you have to build and build and create muscle memory- just like learning anything!

Think about something that you’re really good at that you had to learn (cooking, math, sewing, whatever it may be). Try to remember what it was like when you were first learning. As kids, everything we learn is new. Kids are used to being bad at things. As adults it’s pretty rare that we start at the very bottom rung of something and work our way up learning. That’s pretty much what you’re doing, but you’re not used to that feeling of not being good at it yet. You’ll get there, chin up! 🙂 

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