Post # 1
Help! I need advice, tips, anything, that has helped fellow brides stay calm before their big days!
I feel like everytime I look for support I get the “you should have just eloped” and a laugh line, which makes me feel like I have to handle things on my own.
16 days till the wedding and I feel like I go from denial, to panic mode in a matter of seconds. I’ve had so much happen in the last couple of weeks from screwed up dental work, to a very unexpected death in my family.
I’ve been waking up before my alarm to dreams about weedding planning, my stomach has been hurting all the time, and I’m having trouble focusing. I feel like this is hindering me from enjoying the moment(s), and I’m trying to keep good perspective, I just feel so much pressure, to look perfect, have everything go smoothly, plus I’m nervous about moving out, and the honeymoon.
Perspective? Suggestions? Thanks!
Post # 3
@AnsleyE: at this point you should have the important things already in place, right? You’ve reserved your venue, you have some kind of food to serve your guests, your officiant knows your names? Take a deep breath and try to calm down. Being nervous isn’t going to make things go any more smoothly. I wish I would have listened to my own advice. I vomited 3 times within a 2 hour period before my wedding. All for nothing. It sounds like you’ve had a rough few weeks. The wedding should be a happy time to lift your spirits. Try to cheer up, if not for yourself at least do it for your Fiance.
Post # 4
I haven’t gotten married yet, but I did have similar issues (the not sleeping, freaking out, lack of concentration, etc.) before my comprehensive exam for my doctorate. Fiance was less than thrilled with my behavior and attitude during those last few weeks.
I made sure to have daily to-do lists and break down exactly what needed to get done versus what could wait. IF I finished the list for the day, I’d tackle something for the next day only if I was feeling it. Otherwise, I counted that day as a win and went to bed. I also forced myself to relax and spend time with other people–hitting bar trivia with the girls, savoring a visit to the ice cream parlor–for hour or two periods of time. You can spare those, I promise, and your mental health will thank you. You’d be surprised how just hanging out with your closest friends/family will make you feel better. As you’ll find, I’m sure, I found that my worrying/freaking out was ultimately unfounded and the exams went fine. Hang in there!
Post # 5
@AnsleyE: no advice, but i do feel your pain. this morning i’m about ready to give up.
Post # 6
I have anxiety issues, and I had such bad stomach pains throughout the whole planning process. After the wedding, I had no idea why I got so worked up.
You put in so much time and effort, but at the end of the day everything goes perfect regardless of a few eff ups. You will look beautiful AND most importantly you are marrying your best friend.
I suggest taking some you time every night. No wedding planning, no talking wedding, not even thinking wedding. It is tough, but maybe just go for a walk in the fresh air or read or something. I felt at my best the last month of the wedding because I let everything fall in place, not really caring where it landed. Everything worked out perfect.
Post # 7
These are all normal feelings from what all of my married friends tell me! If you weren’t nervous, it wouldn’t be a normal human reaction. This is a big step and a life changing event. It’s a happy one, of course, but we brides are put under a lot of pressure to look so beautiful and perfect on the day, for things to go smoothly, and for transitions to be easy. Take a deep breathe and know that everything will be okay! Take on tasks one at a time. You will be fine!
I also agree about the “me” time you need. Relax.. go shopping, get a manicure, go to your best friend’s house and watch a movie. Get your mind off of wedding things for a little while each day! The day will come and go and be over with before you know it and you will be loving married life with your hubby!