- 3 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015
My wedding is in exactly 8 months and we have yet to pay the deposit to the venue so we can still change all of our plans. Planning is going very well (we have found the photographer, dj, band, dress, wedding colors, have a good idea of the decor…) and my FI and I agree or compromise easily on everything. So far the stress level is pretty low. But… I can’t help it but feel like this is too much for me. I talked about it to my FI and MOH. He thinks I am not optimistic enough about the outcome and she thinks I am putting to much things on my plate.
We are planning to DIY too much (all decor, cakes) and have too much to do by ourselves on the day of (hair and makeup, reception and ceremony decor, music gear installation…). We do not have a wedding planner, unfortunately. We’ll have a day of coordinator (a good friend) and will delegate to friends and family who have volonteered.
I thought about it and I think my discomfort comes from 3 major things:
1. Too much to do the day of, fear of lacking time to do it all and have it look good.
2. Ugly reception room (trust me…. a 70’s convent with beige and burgundy walls, orange floors and burgundy banquet chairs)
3. Too many guests. The room capacity is 120, our guest list is 120. I would prefer 60-70 but my FI wants 120 (our families too).
While I can try to calm me down and ask for more help on the day of and trust my coordinator and can forget about the ugly venue (who will look decent with our decor) I think I really fear the 120 guests… If it was only up to me (which is not…) I would just rent a pretty restaurant downtown who doesn’t need any decor and invite only close friends and family.
I have never liked being in the spotlight… I know people won’t be judging and will only be happy for us but I can’t help myself but fear the moment I’ll have to walk down the aisle on my father’s arm and say my vows in a mic.
I am not the only shy bride here, so how have you coped with this fear? The only strategy I have found yet is to take the pictures before the ceremony and have a first look before going down the aisle so I won’t be as stressed out as if I had to see him for the first time there.