Overwhelmed with undeserved kindness

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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7531 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Sounds like you must be an awesome daughter and friend to have so many people that love you and are generous. It also sounds like you have wonderful family and friends.  Just enjoy!

Post # 4
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424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Little_Nut88:  Interesting how weddings can bring out the best and/or worst in people.  I’m so glad that you’re having a great experience 🙂  And it says a lot about you that you’re so greatful.

 

Post # 5
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215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Your family loves you and wants to share in your happiness. 

One idea would be to give them special recognition, maybe on the back of your program. Write your own personal think you note, or dedicate a poem or quote to certain special people.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@Little_Nut88:  Aw sweets, that just shows how much they love you, and I’m sure you deserve it.  If it makes you feel better, store this away in a mental favor bank – get them back when they get married or have babies or need help moving or it’s their birthday…

Post # 7
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2100 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Little_Nut88:  Hi. I’m so glad someone posted this. 🙂 

I got all my crystal from my grandmother and was sooo touched by the generosity. We are close…but still! Then my aunt gave us really expensive cannisters I thought, while very needed, others would consider it “fluffy”… It was one of the first things purchased for us. Then my grandmother (again!) got us our KA mixer. I have wanted one since I was a kid and she fulfilled that wish. And then my family threw me a shower! 

FI’s work place threw us a shower. I had never met these people! So kind of them! 

And then my very good friend is throwing me a shower this weekend. She has been dying to do it since we got engaged. And we are just going away, us 2, to marry!!! Everyone knows this…and still! 

Lastly, we got cute luggage tags as a thank you from our photographer. I feel they don’t belong to me…like who are they for? Does that make sense? I guess b/c I don’t think I deserve it all. 

Oh and my engagement ring…it is very expensive and beautiful. Sometimes I think my hand isn’t nice enough to pull it off or people look at me and think, “Why is SHE wearing that?”. 

Post # 8
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2100 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Little_Nut88:  I just noticed your wedding date…5 days before mine. Truly, I’m freaking out. Not that I don’t want to marry him…it’s a lot of other things…stuff like what you posted…never being able to repay such niceness and getting all this nice stuff.  So I’m wondering…did you always feel this way? Or did it just start? Mine kind of just started a few days ago. 

Post # 11
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7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Think of it as reaping what you sow. You don’t even realize it, but you’ve somehow helped all these people or made their lives better in ways you don’t even know. You get out of life what you put in. If you weren’t deserving of these things, you would not be receiving them.

It’s good you’re grateful.. but try to enjoy. People aren’t stupid… if you weren’t a good person who deserved this, people wouldn’t be so generous.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Little_Nut88:  Be gracious and accept their help and gifts.  They love you and just want to help.  You are fortunate, this could easily be going in the other direction!!

Post # 13
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159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Little_Nut88:  I totally understamd how you feel. The day after our wedding, DH, my parents and I all sat down to sort out the gifts, and make a record of who gave what (for thank you cards).

By the end, all 4 of us were crying! We couldn’t believe the generosity of our guests, and we were just so greatful. My DH and I had to immediately leave for our honeymoon, so we didn’t really get a chance to “deal” with the emotions. (Even when we were on the plane, if I thought back to earlier in the afternoon, I would start to cry!)

By the next day I felt better, after getting some much needed sleep, and the distraction of my honeymoon.

At the end of the day, enjoy the time you spend with these very special people, and make sure to write them heartfelt thank you cards. And don’t worry too much, a time will come when these people will need you (wedding related, or otherwise), and I am sure you will be there.

Congrats

Post # 14
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2047 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

lol, I posted almost the exact same question yesterday….if anyone else was shocked by the generosity of their wedding guests (in a good way). When we sat and opened all the cards (we only got like 3-4 physical gifts) we were slack jawed! Couldnt even believe it….. I was keeping track in an excel spreadsheet as we went and when I showed DH at the end he almost fell on the floor! lol

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