Post # 1
I’m starting to get a little stressed out! There’s only 5 more months until my wedding and I can’t make any kind of decision about this wedding! I do have a dress, a photographer, and my bridemaids dresses..but that’s seriously it. I can’t even make my mind up where to have my reception or even what time to have the ceremony. My friends and family keep telling just do whatever I want…but the truth is..I honestly don’t know what I want. And my fiance, bless his heart, really doesn’t know either! I honestly think he’d be just fine to elope..but I know I don’t want that (that’s probably the only thing I do know, right?! lol) A part of me thinks I should just have it at the church fellowship hall, so it will be simple and then we can head out to the honeymoon faster. But I’m from a small town, so then I worry that everybody and his brother will show up and I won’t have enough at room at the church fellowhship hall. I thought about sending invitations..but my mother in law to be thought I shouldn’t because if I forgot someone I might hurt their feelings. Is it normal to be this indecisive about a wedding?? I’m so overwhelmed and I don’t even know where to start 🙁 HELP!
Post # 3
It is normal to have all these worries. First thign you need an idea if you want a small or big wedding. Number 2 get a team helping you make the guest list (especially if there is lots of people you may need help). Number 3 what kind of reception do you want ie cake and punch or lunch or picnic cookout all the way to blacktie dance all nigth. Number 4 find a venue. Number 5 figure out food and drinks (may be combined with 4 depending on venue).Number 6 DJ and any other service providers needed. Number 7 decor and rentals. Number 8 the little stuff like favors and guest book.
This may not be the best list but make a list it will help and take everything one step at a time.
Post # 4
I highly recommend getting a wedding planner book. I used one called Instant Wedding Planner. Its formatted for brides planning a wedding in less then 6 months, but my favorite thing about it was the first section. It was a bunch of questions that help you figure out what is important to you, and what you want. There is a space for you to answer and then for Fiance to answer. We spent about 30-40 minutes one evening answering the questions. Once we did that I had a muuuuuccchhh better idea of what kind of wedding we were going to plan.
Post # 5
Real Simple has some awesome wedding checklists on their website if you like lists 🙂
Post # 6
Where are you at in KY? I’m in KY, too. If you’re close to me, I might be able to recommend some vendors.
Post # 7
@ky_bride_12: I am indecisive by nature, so is my Fiance, so I was terrified that planning the wedding, making all those BIG decisions would be too hard. But I made a rule for myself – commit to a decision and that’s it, DONE, move on to the next. I think that us brides are so consumed with making the day perfect that we lose sight of what it’s truly about – the marriage, the commitment, the love, etc. It’s not about what everyone else wants and expects. OP – focus, ok? Make a list of to-do’s. And bang out that list, just get it done. Don’t consult everyone and their Mom on their opinions. It just makes it all that much harder. Good luck, you can do it.
Post # 8
@nikkialys: I like this idea too!
Post # 9
Thanks ladies! You guys are right I just need to start getting things checked off my list. Me and my Fiance agreed that by this weekend we will make a decision about the reception one way or another. I think once I decide that..my “style” and ideas for the wedding will start to happen..hopefully anyway! lol I just need to get on the ball. And @roweboat, I live in western ky, but i’m set on having it here in my small hometown because that where me and my Fiance share all our memories. There’s only a couple options to have reception here, so you wouldn’t think I’d have that hard of time making up my mind! But that’s just me for ya I guess..haha But thanks gals!!
Post # 10
Also, once you pick your major venues like location and caterer, ask them for a list of recommendations. My venue had a long list of preferred vendors that made my life so much easier. Good luck!
Post # 11
@naturalysam: Thanks for this helpful list. I know it’s really simple but I like it that way.
Post # 12
Just one little note. I had a friend in a small town who decided not to send out invitations (for some reason that I can’t remember). But instead of not hurting people’s feelings, basically no one thought they were invited. They had gotten a verbal invitation but assumed that because they didn’t get an actual invitation card that they weren’t invited. So…moral of the story: send out some invitations. Otherwise, some people might not come!