Post # 1
I’m a bee who thought I knew what I wanted. I have been envisioning my wedding day since before I can even remember and always thought that when it finally happened I would be able to plan it in a jiffy! I am so confused and stressed out because exactly the opposite is happening! I find that despite my love for wedding blog browsing and magazine reading I end up with no clue of what to do for our wedding. I know we still have lots of time (our day isnt until Oct 2013) but I am going to have to start narrowing it down!
I feel like I am constantly torn between wanting a vintage/rustic style wedding and a very formal/traditional style wedding. Is it even possible to have a happy medium between these two styles??
Then there is the colour issue…though we are having a Fall wedding I really don’t want to have oranges/reds/browns. I am drawn to ivory, gold, silver and purple. Would having gold and silver together even look okay? Like silver candleabras for centerpieces but gold charger plates? When I think I have narrowed it down to things I rethink it all and then feel like I should be going for something less formal and more with the vintage/rustic look…
How is a girl ever supposed to decide on what to choose? Is there a way to blend together all of this mish mash into something cohesive? Am I crazy? haha.
Post # 3
It’s okay sweetie. We all have been there done that. First you need to make a list of your priorites. Set your budget. Decide whats important to you and Fiance. Heres a website that will help:
As you get older, things change. I know some brides may have dreams of getting married in a mansion. Well my dream was to get married outdoors in April in a garden setting and have an indoor reception. Sounds easy enough right? I thought wrong. Because we couldnt afford that, I had to rework my priorities. Okay I know I wanted to get married outdoors. That I did not want to lose. We settled on a Fall themed wedding in November in my parents backyard by the lake during sunset. Its still going to be beautiful outdoors like I wanted, I just wont have the flowers all around me but I was willing to lose that. We are having the reception indoors at a hotel and I didnt want to compromise on getting a photo booth (my mom wanted it just as bad). Fortunately we found a GREAT deal on the photo booth (they were running a special so watch out for those). I have come to realize that its YOUR wedding day, you can do whatever you want!!! You dont have to go with a theme, it just gives you a better direction on where to go considering the decor and color scheme. By The Way, the first wedding I was planning in April I had a crazy color scheme (because I hated pastel colors) and it didnt work out so well. I was so confused and overwhelmed. Planning the themed wedding, all my decisions just CLICK just like that. You have ALOT of time to decide on what you want. Look at some venues first. Find vendors. Then consider your theme/color scheme.
Post # 4
Awww. I agree – everyone goes through that! It’s really hard to make up your mind about the overall style!
I think the best thing to do to start with is talk with your fiance and find out what HE prefers – it’s his wedding too and his vote can help you out! Show him blog posts of a few of your favorite weddings, some modern weddings and some vintage/rustic, and get his opinion!
Also, once you know your budget, look for venues within your budget – we fell in love with our venue (we’re getting married under a huge oak tree at an old B&B, called Oak Tree Manor) and none of the other venues we looked at even came close. So we booked it! And once we booked it, everything else started to come together – since it’s a very old property, we decided on a whimsical vintage theme, with backyard games (croquet, horseshoes, etc.), and lots of other garden wedding activities, and pretty simple rustic decorations. The colors I picked based on the property – it’s outdoors so mostly greens and browns, so I decided that any earth tones would look a little washed out. So, our color palette is blush pink, mauve, tan, gold, and seafoam green – couldn’t pick just one, and we decided to skip the boring “autumn” colors!
But seriously, don’t pick your colors until you pick your venue!! It will look the most polished if you choose colors that complement the venue.