Post # 1
Newly engaged to my best friend and love of my life. Whirlwind of ideas, planning, surprises and excitement. Forever, soulmate, true love, unconditional. All of the greatest, happiest feelings. All except for…
I am TERRIFIED of being the center of attention on my wedding day. I am so painfully introverted, so socially awkward…so…afraid of all eyes on me. I cannot WAIT to marry him, but being in the spotlight has never been my thing. Walking down the aisle is my biggest fear in the situation. I have nightmares about it. Again, it’s not fear of tripping or falling or anything. Just being STARED at. All the way down. Cameras flashing. The emotion. ALL OF IT!!
I get sweaty, shaky, turn bright red, get lightheaded…all the most attractive things you want to be on the most important day of your life.
How do I overcome this anxiety? Any married ladies who felt this way? Any about to be married ladies who are feeling this way? My fear is crippling. I want to get past this so I can enjoy planning my wedding and enjoy being engaged for the next 8 months. Xanax and a few too many mimosas are the only prescription I can think of at the moment.
Post # 3
@jentendo: Oh no! I’m so sorry that you’re dealing with this. I’m just here to offer support and perhaps a few things to think about. Have you considered eloping? Or what about having a smaller wedding? I understand that these aren’t options for everyone, but they may help you feel more comfortable. Or, if you would like, could BOTH of your parents walk you down tha aisle? I know a lot of brides are doing this and it might help you feel more comfortable.
Everything is going to be okay. You still have time to figure out a strategy that will make your wedding day as sweet and special as you deserve 🙂
Post # 4
@wideeyes: Having my mom and dad both actually is a great idea! I’ll run that by them lol =)
Post # 5
Maybe just have a small, initmate wedding with only immediate family and your closest friends in attendance. People you feel most comfortable around.
Post # 6
@jentendo: Something that can be really helpful for anxiety is meditation (personally tried and tested…). With time and practice, you’ll eventually become aware of your stress and anxiety as it’s happening, and you’ll be able to tap into mental clarity and calm. That’s not to say it’ll completely get rid of all your anxiety, but being aware of your mental state can help you give your body cues to relax and enjoy the moment.
And congrats on your engagement. 🙂