Post # 1
So, my brother and his wife are expecting a baby! Yay for them 🙂 Here’s the issue: it is their second child. They have a daughter already (she is almost 2) and are having another girl. They live in a different state from both us and her family, so they set up a GoFundMe for a “virtual baby shower”.
I want to tell them that A-it is a little off-taste to have a baby shower for a second child, especially when it’s the SAME sex as the first one, who is incidentally young enough that they could use all the same stuff for the second one, and B-a “shower” is a party that is hosted by someone else in your honor.
So, basically, they are not throwing themselves a party in honor of themselves, asking for cash on the internet, and just being so incredibly tacky.
The Tacky McTackersons. Mr and Mrs TackyPants. TackittyTackTack. Ugh.
Post # 3
Um, yeah, tacky. Very, very tacky. And not because it’s the second girl, just because it’s really tacky
Post # 4
@DaneLady: Ugh. How absolutely embarrassing for them. Yes, excruciatingly, horrifyingly tacky on so, so many levels.
Look away and pretend you didn’t see this and hope others do the same. Its the kindest thing you can do.
Post # 5
@DaneLady: I would stay out of it and keep my opinion to myself. Siblings don’t often respond well to advice from siblings.
Wait until the baby is born and send a nice gift.
Post # 6
@DaneLady: Hahahaha. This is just funny. I mean, I’ve been to small showers thrown by a friend of the mom when they are having a second same-gender baby. But they are low key and people get small gifts. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a registry for that sort of shower. But setting up a donation site? WHAT?! That is just bonkers.
Post # 7
@DaneLady: Why do people think they deserve a 2nd shower? I thought showers were only for the 1st born and my friend wants a sprinkle (that is what it is called I guess)
I also had a friend who literally joined a book club as soon as she got pregnant so she could get a “book shower”
Had a shower with her friends “regular baby shower”
Then had a shower with her parents friends back in her hometown
I was like are you kidding me?! She is RIDICULOUS, she also posts 10 pics of her baby every day though, she is super annoying.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
I feel like some people just think they are supposed to get showers, regardless of what child it is or who hosts it. I feel like they equate showers to = free stuff. If my sister did that I’d tell her she’s being tacky. I don’t know what kind of relationship you have with your brother, but maybe they just don’t know any better.
Post # 9
I dont think it’s tacky to have a shower for a second baby. A lot of the stuff from baby # 1 gets gross and you probably wouldnt want to put it on/in baby #2.
I dont like your poll answers. I know i dont comment much at all, but i do like to take polls. You only give one option that it’s 100% OK.
I dont love the idea of the site that’s begging for money, but if your whole family is spread out, it’s not a bad option. Let the people get what they need, and not just a ton of pink blankets.
Babies are a joy and they’re expensive. It takes a village. If people dont want to give a shower present then dont go to the shower…. simple.
Post # 11
Ugh. So bad!
It would be a little different if ANY of the following were true:
1) different gender
2) 5+ years between babies
3) Someone else was HOSTING them a shower ******** this one especially!!!
Post # 12
If my sister did that she’d get an earful from me!!!
Post # 13
Yes I definitely think it’s in poor taste. I would not give money but I would send a gift because I think every new baby should be celebrated.
Post # 14
That is just so ew… I would send them a nice blanket for baby or a cute new outfit, as they all should have at least some stuff of their own, but that’s it. A gofundme is just… WHAT!? That is for people who have REAL CAUSES
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard
I do think it’s tacky to have a 2nd shower, unless the family is really poor and honestly needs the stuff.
showers are social events where you get to bond with friends and family over having a new baby. taking that aspect away means they are just asking for money, so it really leaves a sour taste in my mouth.
Post # 16
I’m glad I’m not just being a bejiggitty bitch about it. I do understand that all babies are blessings and should be celebrated. I do NOT understand, for the life of me, why they think it’s ok to ask for donations. If you can’t afford a baby, then don’t have one. Or another one, or whatever.
I had no intention what so ever of actually saying anything to them, that would be rude on my part. I just rolled my eyes, shook my head a little bit, and came here to vent. If there are family members who really think this is a great idea and wish to contribue, then that is their decision and not mine.
FWIW, I am having a second baby as well, and in no way/shape/form expect anyone to get us anything. We bought all gender-neutral big ticket items for the sole purpose of using them with a second child regardless if it’s the same sex or not. All I have to do is wash it.
Anyway, thanks for letting me vent, I love you guys, and no I’m not so rude I’d say something to them. It’s not really my place 🙂