Oy. Tacky family :/

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Is this in poor taste?
    No. Help these poor people out, they are family after all. : (14 votes)
    6 %
    Sort of, it is their second child so they shouldn't really have a shower. : (29 votes)
    13 %
    Yes. Asking people for money is rude. : (106 votes)
    46 %
    Holy crap I can't think of many things that are tackier than this mess. : (81 votes)
    35 %
  • Post # 3
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    4483 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Um, yeah, tacky. Very, very tacky. And not because it’s the second girl, just because it’s really tacky

    Post # 4
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    2649 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @DaneLady:  Ugh. How absolutely embarrassing for them. Yes, excruciatingly, horrifyingly tacky on so, so many levels. 

    Look away and pretend you didn’t see this and hope others do the same. Its the kindest thing you can do.  

    Post # 5
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    42469 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @DaneLady:  I would stay out of it and keep my opinion to myself. Siblings don’t often respond well to advice from  siblings.

    Wait until the baby is born and send a nice gift.

    Post # 6
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    6964 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @DaneLady:  Hahahaha. This is just funny. I mean, I’ve been to small showers thrown by a friend of the mom when they are having a second same-gender baby. But they are low key and people get small gifts. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a registry for that sort of shower. But setting up a donation site? WHAT?! That is just bonkers. 

    Post # 7
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    567 posts
    Busy bee

    @DaneLady:  Why do people think they deserve a 2nd shower?  I thought showers were only for the 1st born and my friend wants a sprinkle (that is what it is called I guess)

    I also had a friend who literally joined a book club as soon as she got pregnant so she could get a “book shower”

    Had a shower with her friends “regular baby shower”

    Then had a shower with her parents friends back in her hometown

    I was like are you kidding me?!  She is RIDICULOUS, she also posts 10 pics of her baby every day though, she is super annoying.

    Post # 8
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    1362 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

    I feel like some people just think they are supposed to get showers, regardless of what child it is or who hosts it.  I feel like they equate showers to = free stuff.  If my sister did that I’d tell her she’s being tacky.  I don’t know what kind of relationship you have with your brother, but maybe they just don’t know any better.

    Post # 9
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    25 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I dont think it’s tacky to have a shower for a second baby. A lot of the stuff from baby # 1 gets gross and you probably wouldnt want to put it on/in baby #2.

     

    I dont like your poll answers. I know i dont comment much at all, but i do like to take polls. You only give one option that it’s 100% OK.

     

    I dont love the idea of the site that’s begging for money, but if your whole family is spread out, it’s not a bad option.  Let the people get what they need, and not just a ton of pink blankets.

     

    Babies are a joy and they’re expensive.  It takes a village.  If people dont want to give a shower present then dont go to the shower…. simple.

    Post # 11
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    6740 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Ugh. So bad!

    It would be a little different if ANY of the following were true:

    1) different gender

    2) 5+ years between babies

    3) Someone else was HOSTING them a shower ******** this one especially!!!

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    If my sister did that she’d get an earful from me!!!  

    Post # 13
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    7075 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Yes I definitely think it’s in poor taste. I would not give money but I would send a gift because I think every new baby should be celebrated.

    Post # 14
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    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    That is just so ew… I would send them a nice blanket for baby or a cute new outfit, as they all should have at least some stuff of their own, but that’s it. A gofundme is just… WHAT!? That is for people who have REAL CAUSES

    Post # 15
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    1443 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard

    I do think it’s tacky to have a 2nd shower, unless the family is really poor and honestly needs the stuff. 

    showers are social events where you get to bond with friends and family over having a new baby. taking that aspect away means they are just asking for money, so it really leaves a sour taste in my mouth.

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