Padrinos and mix culture wedding

posted 3 years ago in Intercultural
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  • Wedding: May 2014 - Scottish Rite Cathedral (New Castle, PA)

@Amelia2014:  I don’t think he’s out of line. If it’s traditional and you’re doing it I think you have to do it all the way. It’s traditional for our (Filipino) sponsors to be on the wedding invite as well. “Sponsors” doesn’t mean monetary, it means supporting you as a couple, giving you advice like your FI said. I think in American weddings the people on the invitations are whoever paid though right? Is that what’s tripping you up? 

I think you have to do it all the way or not, either have them as your sponsors and list them or do away with the tradition completely. With my FI and I, if it’s important to him it’s important to me and vice versa so I don’t think he should have to ask you to view them as important. I’m sure it’s difficult not being a natural spanish speaker but I would certainly make the effort to get to know them with your FI; phone calls, skype, etc. That way you can feel a little more comfortable talking to them, maybe not comfortable enough to ask for advice but comfortable talking to them at least.  

With that being said, I come from a culture that has similar ideas/traditions so they are not strange requests to me. I might feel differently if it was something I’d never heard of. 

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