Post # 1
I am newly engaged and am the first girl in the family to get married. So as you can imagine my family is really excited! My fiance is korean and I am american. I love and respect his culture and would like to incorporate it into the wedding. So far he has been very kind about letting me plan the wedding I’ve dreamed of since I was little, however that dream didnt include anything Korean. Out of respect for my future husband and future in-laws I want to include a paebaek on our wedding day. My family would also love to see so we were thinking about having it during the beginning of the reception. My question is have any other brides done this?? And if so how long did the whole process take? Im curious how long it takes to change from my wedding dress to the hanbok, do the ceremony and then change back into my wedding dress. Anything will help I am completely clueless!!!
Post # 2
Hi @amayes1990, I think it’s lovely that you’re trying to be considerate of your fiance’s Korean culture. My two older cousins did it differently:
One of my cousins had a private Paebaek ceremony with family only, in the evening after the reception at her new husband’s home. Her reasoning was that Paebaek is a private, family affair, and thus the ceremony did not interfere with her ceremony and reception otherwise.
My other cousin had her Paebaek at the beginning of the reception, during the salad course. She stayed in her white dress at the very beginning of the reception for introductions, then left to change. She had another cousin narrate the background and purpose of the ceremony for the American guests to follow along, and the couple also bowed to his (American) mom. Immediately after the ceremony, they changed back into their western wear.
Based on your post, it sounds like you’ll have something along the lines of my second cousin’s timeline…I think the duration of the dress change will depend on how complex your wedding gown is to put on/take off; the ceremony length will depend in part on how many relatives you’ll honor by bowing and pouring them tea. The parents themselves may give a brief toast, as well. You should look into whether there are local businesses who help you administer Paebaek — they can set up the appropriate items on the table, walk you through a rehearsal, help you dress in the hanbok, etc.
Best of luck with your planning, and let us know how everything works out!