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We writing our ceremony and really want it to be unique and don't really want to do a hand-fasting. Anyone have any ideas for a pagan ceremony?? I would have posted this in the religious secession but it appears there isn't an option for that. Any suggestions would be helpful :) 

zippylef We were thinking about doing a ritual but I haven't had much luck finding an ordained priestess who could also legal marry us and I would feel weird having a person who isn't like minded bless the whole shindig. So we kind of gave up on that idea, though I am thinking I might revisit it if we can't find anything else that fits.

@Koolbeans621:  Do some historical research on pagan weddings. Not all were handfastings, that's just seems to be the most favored modern reinterpretation of it. (I personally will, I like the symbolism). 

One idea is to still do the concept of the unity candle. Are you one who tends to light candles to represent either the quarters or the God/Goddess? If so, perhaps have a unity candle, and light personal taper off a corner of your choice or the Goddess/God candle (or both Goddess, hey by all means, do as thou wilt:) ) and use that to light a unity candle. 

I think there's also room for an elemental reconstruction of the sand ceremonies we are seeing, but maybe find a way to do it including all four elements. 

Another way is near the vows - when promising love, provide for each other and build a home/life together - to share honey cakes and wine. Or another food offering like a fruit.. and grape juice/apple juice. The point is that you are dedicated to caring for one another (Sorta like the whole tradition of feeding each other the piece of cake) but in a more ritualized/ceremonial environment.  You can used one chalice/goblet/toasting flute and share it, even hold it for one another - althought I'd recommend at least one practice for the second option. 

I hope I've provided some ideas.