Post # 1
Hi fellow bees!
I recently paid a deposit and signed a contract for my wedding flowers (bouquets and bouts). However my sister has just informed me that she’d like to help make my bouquets as she’s helped her friends in the past. I don’t want to lose the deposit, but I also don’t want to waste money if my sister can do them for cheaper. my bouquets are straightforward. Would it be ok for me to ask my florist to just complete the boutonnières for me instead? my florist has also said she’s ordered the flowers even though they have yet to be finalized – to ensure she gets good quality flowers from the grower, but I still have flexibility to change them.
What are your thoughts? My wedding is still 4 months away. Thanks!
Post # 2
Kannechow: What does the contract you signed say about changing the terms and the effect on your deposit?
Post # 3
It doesn’t have any details regarding changing the terms. It says all paymenta made are non-refundable. And all outstanding balances must be paid 30 days prior to the scheduled event date, and if not then services will not be provided and no refund will be issued.
I sent you an image of all the details but the above lines are the only ones that reference the deposit.
Post # 4
Kannechow: how much was your deposit? Maybe you can talk to your florist and see if that would cover the boutonniere’s or maybe a centerpiece for your ceremony or reception, so you aren’t wasting your deposit if you decide to let your sister do your flowers. Have you seen pictures of the bouquets that your sister made for the other weddings, to make sure that what you want is doable?
Post # 5
Sorry, I realized I can’t send a photo through a message. The contract also says no refunds or exchanges on floral materials, any product, or rentals (this company also rents out decor).
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
It sounds like they probably wouldn’t let you apply your deposit to a centerpiece, but there’s no harm in asking. But first, do out allll the math – how much will it cost for your sister to do it? How much is the deposit? How much do you have left to pay? Would it be worth it for you, both financially and emotionally to have that kind of stress/uncertainty? (Guessing your sister is talented but not a professional florist if she’s just helping friends.)
At the end of the day, if you have to eat a deposit, it’s not the end of the world. I lost a couple when I eloped. It sucked … but the end result was worth it. You may find that to be true as well.
Post # 7
rachel85: emstar, and julie:
Thank you for everyone’s feedback! I’m going to meet her tonight to discuss what the options are – hopefully she’ll be able to use the deposit towards some basic décor and/or boutonnieres or corsages. I’m just hoping that she will not charge me for the flowers that she already ordered. Though I’m still not sure why she ordered them given that we agreed that we were still to discuss and finalize the flowers. If not, I suppose eating the deposit would not be the end of the world. My sister is very crafty and will definitely do a great job.