Post # 1
My fiance wants to gift the guys a paintball outing. He wants to take them the morning of the wedding for 4-5 hrs to a local paintball course. Would/Could this be considered his thank you gift to the guys for being in the wedding?
He doesnt drink so typical flasks, engraved mugs, etc. Doesnt fit. He didnt like the idea of cufflinks.
The only idea I had that he didnt veto straight away was pocket knives but he still wasnt really on board.
This is the first “gift” that he has been super excited about.
Between the enterance fee, rentals and paint it looks like it is going to be around $40-$50/person which is about what we would have spent on a groomsman gift.
Would this be okay? My fiance says that us girls care abou tthe ettiquitte of it all way too much and that any guy would love this gift and we should stop thinking about it and just leave it at that. I’d like to give them something small additionally as a momento (maybe a tietac or tiebar)- just so they have something to open when we give the girls their gifts at the rehersal dinner.
Post # 3
I think its a great idea! Honestly, I think most guys would perfer that to “traditional” Groomsmen gifts.
Only issue, paintball can cause injury/brusing. Can you have it be a post wedding party? (like after you get back from your honeymoon? or several weeks before. If they do it the day of, your Hubby may have welts in your wedding pictures. Or he could sprain his ankle.
Post # 4
Also, I don’t think its necessary to buy them something extra to open. I don’t think they’ll mind, if they know the paintball is their present. But if you want to give them something I think a tiebar, shots glasses, or something else small is appropriate.
Post # 5
There is no real etiquette when it comes to GM/BM gifts, you can give them anything you want as long as they will like it!
Paint ball is a brilliant idea (though can get expensive, so just check prices).
But would you really want to do it ON the wedding day? Paintball is hugely intensive and most people just want to lie on the couch for the rest of the day afterwards. It can also cause huge bruising and make hugging/kissing painful – not something you want on your wedding day!
I was say go 1 or 2 weeks before the wedding. Or even after! 🙂
Post # 6
@MissShork: Very much agree!!
Guys tend to appreciate experiences more than tangible momento type things. Honestly, if DH’s groomsmen weren’t so spread out across the country, he totally would have done that. I think it’s a fabulous idea, but I do think it should take place a week or so in advance or afterwards because of the injury potential…. but honestly, in all the times Darling Husband has gone to play, he’s never come back with obvious bruises or anything. If you have the right gear and don’t shoot point blank, they won’t have huge bruises.
If you wanted to give them something, you could ask your Fiance to have a group picture taken that day, then another at the wedding and give them each a two-picture frame to keep them in.. most guys would like that I think.
Post # 7
i think its a great idea, the more fun they have the more relaxed they will be.
i am booking a morning for the guys to go quad biking. my wedding isnt til 5.30pm, so they have loads of time.
us girls are going horse riding……i love fun
Post # 8
I think it is an awesome idea – but I wouldn’t want them to do it the day of the wedding! What if they end up with welts and bruises in the wedding pictures?!? Maybe go for a couple weeks before or after you guys come back from your honeymoon.
Post # 9
my Fiance and his crew are heading out to a paintball field a week before our wedding for an overnight paintball-a-palooza. They will have time to heal up and won’t be tracking paint through my house to clean up afterward lol I think it’s a great idea and the boys will remember it long after the wedding as opposed to a flask or something else they’ll let collect dust.
Post # 10
The guys are spread out across the country so its pretty much that day or no day. We are having a brides vs groom team wiffleball tournament the morning before thats already been planned so even the day before is out now.
My Fiance has been out playing paintball many times and with the right clothing and facemasks I dont really think bruises/welts will show up in our photos. Found a great deal online that is $35 for the rentals/mask and paint.
My only fear is that they will be late getting ready because they are going to want to stay and play all day! But I am sending both of our Dads along to keep track of the time!
Thanks for all the input!!!