(Closed) Paitently Waiting….or so it may seem

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

hi buckweatis!

ahh, the waiting game. it’s a whole lot of not fun isn’t it? i don’t have much advice on making it through. like most people, i have my good days and my bad days. but i do find solace in knowing there are other people who know exactly how i’m feeling!

the boy and i have been together for 4 years now and been talking marriage for 4 years. yup. though since we’re long distance at the moment, we’re more focused on getting local more than anything else, but now that the gears are in motion for the big move the engagement gears have started back up again. i do my share of making sure i don’t get too excited for the possibilities whenever we visit each other and to be honest, it’s usually the quiet moments along when i have my big wedding thinking sessions. so maybe you can just keep yourself busy with fun activities. one girl decided to teach herself caligraphy. me? i ended up going to grad school. i don’t suggest that. LOL

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

it was me that decided to teach myself calligraphy! lol!! there is also a contest of sorts not to bring up anything wedding related in two weeks to a month. i signed up as well. it’s a great group of girls on here and we are all really supportive when it doesn’t happen and as excited as your best friends when it does!! welcome to the board!!

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I’m in the same boat.  We’ve been friends for almost 12 years (wow, time flies) and we will be dating for two years in December.  It’s hard.  There are good days and there are bad days.  I keep myself busy and spend time with my friends.  I just got a new sewing machine and I’m going to reintroduce myself to my old hobbies–sewing was one of them.  I am also going back to school part time, which will keep me busy.  What else?  I am trying not to talk about it with him, but when I really really have to get things off my chest, I come right here and vent.  Everyone is great, and it always helps to know that you are not alone.  (Ps–I joined the challenge too.  Wish me luck!)

Welcome! 

Post # 6
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1956 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

My (then) bf told me it wasn’t going to happen until august or later, and this was back in february, and I was pretty upset but then he proposed 3 weeks later! remember he’s not going to tell you when he’s going to do it, he’s trying to throw you off track! Have you guys talked pretty in-depth about getting engaged or looked at rings?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

@lovesthebear, you joined the challenge? good luck! i didn’t join since i don’t typically bring it up to him [he mentions it most times] so going two weeks would have been cake. plus we’re more focused on our upcoming move. eeee!

good luck!

Post # 8
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620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@tea I am also doing post graduate studies and finding it hard when i am alone! Spend too much time on Weddingbee!

My BF and I have been together for over 4 years, but only really talking engagement over the past couple of months. We have always talked about having kids, getting married etc, but never the actual engagement. Now that we are, im getting quite excited!

Im occupying myself with studying, trying to organise a boudoir session and exercising so i look good in the boudoir session! And of course perusing WeddingBee!!!

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@buckwheatis: i totally feel you on the past relationship.  my ex bought me a gorgeous ring and proposed only to tell me about 20 minutes later when we were having our celebratory dinner that he had changed his mind and didn’t want to marry me.  Wasn’t that “nice”?

Post # 11
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11327 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@crebre80 omg! that is horrible. Karma is going to kick his ass all over town.

 

I guess I have a semi-similar story. My previous relationship was 5 years. He proposed after about a year but I said I wanted to wait a little longer because I was a freshman in college and wanted to be a bit more stable first. Then when I graduated from college (about 3.5 years in) I really expected him to propose. It had kind of been “the plan.” But he didn’t. And didn’t and didn’t. Until 5 years in and it became so abundantly clear that I was a distant second in priority next to his job. So I left him and only 4 months later found my guy!

I think that because of that whole scene is kind of why I took things slow to start with my current guy. I was scared of getting hurt. But he wasn’t and he always laid it out there for me to see, and after waiting for 2 years for me to give him the “go ahead I’m ready” signals, now he’s making me wait for the ring!! (i guess its only fair but come onnn)

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am waiting sort of..we know we’re getting married next summer but I won’t budge until ring is here.

I may be waiting but this gal is not anywhere patient.  Nope.

Post # 13
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10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@corgitales: it had to be the biggest waste of time in my life. we were on and off for almost 4 years. we built a house together and on december 23rd (day of closing) he says oh i don’t think you should move in. i don’t know if i’m ready, this sh.t happened on and off for the next few years (who knows why i still tried to make it work) i don’t even think i loved him, it was just what was expected, i went to an ivy league college, got preggo, had my son graduated from school and was in my career and it seemed that my fam looked at me as a failure so i didn’t want that to be another reason for them to judge… let’s just say i moved away, quit my job and met m <3 and started my own business that i love love love

Post # 14
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11327 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@crebre80 aw! That’s a good happy ending though. I’m still trying to get the career thing figured out. Have one I *like* okay and pays well. Definitely do not love. Maybe someday 🙂

Post # 15
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10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@corgitales: Yeah now if only i could get the elusive circle on my left ring finger lol!!!

Post # 16
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11327 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@crebre80 preaching to the choir my dear! What I keep trying to remind myself (which only kinda works) is that at least we know its coming at some point. As agonizing as it is to wait… it is only agonizing because we’re SO excited to be married to the ones we love and we’re lucky for that. Could be many worse situations to be in. 🙂

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