Post # 1
My fiancé is half-Pakistani and comes from a really old school, strict Pakistani family. I’d love to pay tribute to that cultural part of our family in some way, but I don’t necessarily want to have henna up and down my arms on my wedding day. I’m also worried about offending my Catholic mother, since we aren’t having a religious ceremony.
We’ve considered going up to where most his family lives to have a Pakistani ceremony, but that seems a bit much, and I’m not sure when / how, etc.
Ideas? I’m considering henna on the feet, with the whole ceremony and traditions. Possibly a baraat in a very loose way.. ah! Red sari at the rehearsal dinner? I don’t know too much about it just yet to be honest. And to be honest, neither does my fiancé. I’m fine with very loose applications of tradition.
Post # 3
@thestylistquo: I’m white, my fiance is Bangladeshi…we are planning on having a small Bengali Muslim ceremony at his parents house, and then a larger civil ceremony/wedding reception later on (neither of us are particularly religious). Our plan for the Western wedding reception is to show a slideshow/have pics on hand of the Bengali ceremony, so all the guests could see those cultural traditions.
As for working in South Asian traditions into your Western ceremony…maybe your in-laws can lend you some Pakistani jewelry to wear? I also know a girl who is wearing a sari-print sash around the waist of her wedding gown.
Post # 4
i’m white american and my FI is american pakistani, his parents are from pakistan.
i’m wearing the white american dress for the first half and then changing into the traditional red dress and all the jewelry, tikka, etc for the 2nd half. (i was going to pick a turquiose pakistani dress but his parents went and bought the red one without me.)
the food is american but is halal.
the ceremony will begin with the nikkah and then the civil vows.
we’re trying to have a mix of both music options.
still doing the traditional american first dance, father-daughter dance, mother-son dance etc. no bouquet toss or garter.
just some ideas of how you can have both sides! let us know what you decide. 🙂
Post # 5
Hey Ladies! My FI and I just got engaged last week. 🙂 I’m white American raised Christian, and he’s American Pakistani raised Muslim. Neither of us are religious but we’re quite spiritual. We’d like to have a non-religious garden wedding ceremony here in the US. We’ll probably have a separate Islamic ceremony in Lahore. Our American wedding will probably have decorative elements of his culture mixed into it. It’ll be fun planning everything over the next few months! 🙂