(Closed) Panic Attacks

posted 6 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
2494 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think, regardless of any medication, you do need to talk to a therapist. I was depressed and had major panic attacks all the time for a few years. I ended up going to a therapist, never took anti depressants, and learned how to control them. I now only get them in relation to my phobias (car accidents and injections), which is much more manageable because I can prepare for it.

I would also argue that if you are unable to function without being in proximity of your Fiance right now, I would think you would be better prepared to have a baby and the stresses that come with that if you are able to gain confidence in being by yourself and have lessened your panic attacks. Certainly here, at least, they wouldn’t use medication as a reason for refusing adoption and most certainly not IVF.

Take care of yourself, and the rest will come.

Post # 5
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree with @takemyhand: that talking to a therapist is what you need to do.

You are not necessarily depressed, but may have some anxiety issues. As for medication, it might be something that is prescribed to be used “as needed” rather than all the time. 

But I agree that talking to someone and figuring out how to get this under control needs to be done before you start TTC.

I have had panic attacks in the past (usually in the middle of the night) and I know how awful they can be. 

I really hope that you will be able to help you work through this.

Post # 7
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Darshyk:  Don’t be embarrassed! Many people have issues with panic attacks, depression, or other issues. The important thing is that now you can start working on figuring it out and looking forward to happier times. It sounds like you’ve found a great first doctor to see and she will make sure to find you a therapist that will fit your needs.

Post # 8
224 posts
Helper bee

this definintely sounds like an anxiety problem. i had this a lot back when i was at university. in my case, it was a social problem and i was always worried that people were talking behind my back (fuelled by the fact that i was bullied) and i used to make  excuses to not to go classes because of it.

i went to see a councellor and she was brilliant. i spoke about things i had never really thought about before and it was a massive step.

one thing I would recommend to you is this book:


it did me THE WORLD of good! there’s a section in it where you write down the things that make you anxious and how you feel on a scale of 1-10. then you write down what you did to make those feelings go away, and it’s a great way of seeing in paper how you’re able to cope with it. it forced me to put myself in uncomfortable positions and proved that it wasn’t a big deal. i first just accepted an invitation to go to the pub with some friends that i hadn’t seen in a while. then i accepted party invitations. then i even asked other people to do things with me! all silly now i look back at it, but it’s amazing how tough even the smallest things are!

i’ve been 100% fine GREAT for over 5 years now and i honestly thank that book for most of it! seriously – go buy it!

for the record – i’ve never used anti-depressants. i hate the idea of them and if your anxiety can be controlled with behavior than you’re definitnely on the right track!

good luck and keep us posted on how well you’re doing! Smile x

Post # 10
8884 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I just want to say that you are completely normal, this is very common and you aren’t alone. I’ve suffered from Anxiety for years (finally diagnosed a few years back) and my panic attacks would come out of nowhere. Even when I didn’t think I was stressed at all. I’d wake up in the middle of the night gasping and it would take a few hours to feel better, even had to go to the hospital a couple of times. It’s not fun at all.

I used to take Paxil, it worked but I didn’t like the numb feeling. Now I’m currently on a daily low-dose of Effexor and it does wonders. I haven’t had a severe panic attack in almost 3 years. I’m not trying to say you need medication, I just wanted to share my story to let you know that it’s not always a bad thing to take medication.

I hope everything works out for you. If you ever need to talk, you can PM me 🙂

The topic ‘Panic Attacks’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors