Post # 1
Everyone keeps saying that I have nothing to worry about and I have so much done but I feel like there are still a million and three things to do and they’re all just going to attack me if I don’t do them right this minute. I texted FI this morning in a panic because the photographer needs a timeline 90 days before the wedding and we’re only 159 days away now and why do I have to figure out the timeline when I’ve never done this before and they do it every week? I still have to order my veil and my garter and work on the music (and make him a timeline, seriously though, when did brides become timeline experts?) Put all the invitations together, make sure the favors are sorted out and are contained in some way (bag? box? other container that hasn’t occurred to me?) Finalize our readings so I can print and assemble thr programs (also, where do I buy small pieces of ribbon to tie on them? I’ve never DIYed anything in my life ever). And figure out the table numbers that have been terrorizing me for months. Oh and order FI his wedding band that we’ve been procrastinating about (I have mine).
Up until this point I’d been so easy breezy about everything, but now I feel like I’m about to have a complete emotional break over table numbers of all things.
Post # 3
@luluvohn: The only timeline you need right now is one for yourself! When ALL the wedding things are a jumbled mess in your head, it’s SO stressful. Figure out what needs to be done NOW, what can be done in the coming months. The little things like you’ve mentioned are annoying, but they are little and don’t take much time. For example, we dealt with our favors the week of the wedding.
February – order FI’s wedding band
March – photographer timeline (ok to ask him now for samples of what he’s used before)
April – wedding invitations
start working out music
May – 1) pick readings and make program (any craft store or even somewhere like Target will have ribbon)
2)make tables once you have RSVPs and deal with the table numbers!
4) finalize music timeline
You can do this!
Post # 4
A timeline 90 days before? That is ridiculous. My wedding is in less than 3 weeks and we still haven’t given her a firm timeline. Don’t stress!!!! Don’t let other people’s deadlines take over.
Post # 5
Take a deep breath. It will be fine. Make a list. Prioritize your list. if you have specific deadlines, include that on your list. Then just work through things. It can be overwhelming. But I get deep satisfaction from checking things off lists. It’ll all come together!
Post # 6
@luluvohn: A timeline 90 days out?! I would be crazed too 🙂 But seriously, take a deep breathe. Make a list, and go one by one. A lot of your list – in th event – it does not get done will not make a huge difference! No bows on your programs? No problem!! If you do not figure out your readings in enough time? Eliminate them from the program, etc, etc.
I am about 125 days out, and of your list, I am now finalizing the last details of our invites, so we can address and send out by early February. That is probably the most ‘pressing’ item on your list right now!
Good luck 🙂
Post # 7
I’m getting married on March 15.
We have no officiant. No DJ. Haven’t finalized cake orders. No alterations, or even appointments (bridal shop went out of business.) Invitations are in a box on the sofa. No programs, escort cards, table numbers. No hair and makeup booked. No ceremony script. Groomsmen have tuxes by now (i hope?) but no ties, shirts, vests or shoes. Bridesmaids dresses aren’t in. Cocktail hour entertainment isn’t booked. Still need to figure out how to make white tablecloths mint green. No timeline. No honeymoon. No hotel.
There have been extinuating circumstances on my end, but really, you’re ahead of the game. Trust me. 🙁
Post # 8
OK, here… I got your timeline done for you – no worries!
10:30AM PHOTOGRAPHER SHOWS UP
10:45AM START TAKING PHOTOS
5:00PM WEDDING STARTS – SNAP PHOTOS
5:30PM CEREMONY ENDS – MORE PHOTOS
6:00PM DINNER TIME OK TO EAT A BIT
6:20PM PARTY STARTS – PHOTOS EVERYWHERE
9:00PM OK PHOTOG CAN GO HOME
If it makes you feel better, I’m attempting to send invitations out this week, and I have yet to finish laying out the printed envelopes.
Oh and don’t get me started on how I haven’t received the paper for any part of the invites yet. AHEM. Procrastination at it’s finest! 😛
They’re going out this week one way or another. Maybe my guests will get a scribbled handwritten note in the mail: “March 1st: Wedding. Place. Time. Be There.”
I am a huge DIY’er and a fellow New Jersey-an, so if you need some help/ideas/places to buy stuff/etc, feel free to PM me! I am TOTALLY GAME for helping you with ideas for stuff!
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I can’t imagine why a photographer would need a timeline more than a week in advance. Craziness!
Ignore that and focus on the timeline listed above.
Post # 10
@luluvohn: Breathe. You’re still several months away. There is time to get it all dine!
Post # 11
@luluvohn: Girl I feel ya! We are planning our wedding long distance (by where all of my FI’s family is) and we are trying to get everything done via email and two weekend visits. Needless to say one of those weekends is this upcoming one and I have been trying to coordinate seven vendor meetings for friday, I know my shower and bach party are saturday (just know the date but NO details so that is crazy stressful as well!) and have an alterations appt sunday! Oh me oh my. Then back to email for everything until one weekend in Feb we can come back up! Just try and breathe and remember the end goal! It should be fun and exciting so don’t let it bog you down!
Post # 12
Breathe! The only thing i can add to the PPs is that you don’t buy ribbon precut. Go to Michaels or Hobby Lobby or Walmart and buy 5 or 6 of the $.99 rolls of thin ribbon and cut them up. You’re OK! You’ve got plenty of time!
Post # 13
Girl I was like “dang you have a lot to do” and then I looked at your wedding date and um…calm down :). And I mean that in the nicest way possible. PPs have good suggestions- write it all down, then tackle one thing at a time. Not only does it feel more manageable that way, but it also increases your productivity.
How specific does your timeline need to be? I have one I’m working on for our wedding, but it’s more for my own craziness than anything. I guarantee your photog doesn’t need “2:34 walk down aisle” “6:43 father daughter dance”. Just say “9am, show up, getting ready pictures w gals, 10am, getting ready pics w guys, 10:30, first look, 11am, family portraits, noon ceremony”. Stuff will change between now and then anyway!
Post # 14
You’re all absolutely right. We ordered FI’s wedding band tonight, my mom and I are going to look at veils tomorrow after work, and FI and I are visiting the tux store on Wednesday morning (mostly because I have a coupon that expires 1/3/14, otherwise I would’ve waited until Saturday). This is helping to get my anxiety back under control.