Panicking About Life (LONG)

posted 2 weeks ago in Pregnancy
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

My appointment is the day before  on the 13th!

But in honor of V-Day, I already bought something for the baby (and for when we tell our parents). I know it’s early but I couldn’t help myself!! ❤

PrincessPeach13 :  

Post # 33
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2009

It can be overwhelming to go through all these things at once, but the main advice I will give is to not move in with your mom.  I think that unless it is ABSOLUTELY necessary, it is a bad idea to live with anyone, especially when you first get married.  I would perhaps do the wedding and honeymoon/other events in more of a budget and get my own place, even if it is a one bedroom, and even if it is rented.  For the record, I have a good relationship with my parents, but there is nothing like living by yourself and getting to know your SO at a deeper level without family interference. 

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Hi Bee, congratulations on your pregnancy! I think no matter when pregnancy occurs, be it planned or unplanned, long waited for or first try, it still takes your mind a little time to get used to the idea. That’s totally normal, it’s not always like the movies where everyone is jumping around crying and in an immediate ‘bubble’. Pregnancy forces you to look at a different future and I totally get the shock of it happening before something as major as a wedding. However, you can still have a lovely wedding whilst pregnant, just think you can show your future child photos of your wedding and tell them that they were if there too! Also once the baby is born, you and your DH will still be able to spend special time together. Babies less than 6 months sleep a lot and I’ve had friends who’ve taken quite big holidays with young babies along with smaller excursions like going out for nice dinners and day trips – baby has generally slept a lot of the day and not been overly demanding (or as demanding as say a 2 year old!) 

Let your fiancé and your mum spoil you and look after you during this time. If you’re close with your mum it might actually be a lovely thing sharing this new adventure with you. 

🙂 sending you lots of best wishes bee!!!! 

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I second what the bees have already told you. My son was not planned and I felt the same way you’re feeling. He’s 3 now and I can’t imagine having him at a different time in my life. Things will fall into place. Keep your head up! This is a very exciting time!

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