Post # 1
Omg Bees, I am totally freaking out right now. I feel like I have sooo much to do, I just can’t handle it. I am trying to balance three almost full time jobs, and wedding planning and I think I’m going to have a panick attack! This is just too much for one person to handle! Breeeathe….breeeathe…. Oh boy.
I don’t even know where to start in booking the honeymoon, have’t gotten save the dates out yet. Heck, haven’t even done engagement pics yet. Need to find a DJ, baker, florist, photographer, videographer, do decorations, find shoes, ask bridesmaids, find bm dresses, figure out how to DIY my makeup and hair, get someone to do bm hair?? Make invitations, find photobooth…. I can’t do this!
I just want to get married to my best friend! But everything is so overwhelming! Ahhhhhhh!
Post # 3
Calm down. breathe. Make a list. breathe. Prioritze. breathe. Focus on one thing per day/week. breathe. Cross one thing off a time and BREATHE!!
Post # 4
Ask for references from friends/family in general. I found some great vendors through our venue, as well as some friends via facebook. Keep your eyes open, be open to new ideas and yours and FI’s interpretation, and definitely make a list! I used the “timeline” on The Knot and it was super helpful with keeping me in line with what needed to be done, when. We did our save the date postcards through VistaPrint ($34 for 100) – we sent them out in January 2012 and our wedding is in just a few weeks. We DIY’d the invitations and table cards, placecards, etc. Get an idea of what theme or color scheme you’re going for and let that be your guide.
Post # 5
Firs thing is first:
I can say from experience that you’ll be okay. You still have time before your wedding, but I understand feeling overwhelmed with emotions. I admit that it gets worse (the emotional roller coaster), but you’ll get through it!
I agree with PPs to make a list. Figure out what your biggest battle is and then work your way down eliminatining from biggest to smallest. It’s what worked best for me.
Also keep in mind that we’re here to help! Look and google resources. If you’re nervous about a particular place, DJ, etc. – ask us to help you with what we feel is the best! Perhaps someone from your area will be able to give you a great recommendation.
Best of luck, girl! You got this!
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
Yes, prioritize! What has kept me sane is pulling out a big calendar and writing one major to-do each Saturday, a minor thing each Sunday, and easy things (ie research flower seasons, email potential musicians, etc) every couple of weeknights.
And get fiancé to help! Weddings are for two people, not just the bride (I’ll spare you my “it’s your day!!” rant)
Post # 7
Delegate. Fi isn’t useless.
Post # 8
Maybe you should consider a wedding planner or having a close relative or friend help you. If you are working so much, it might relieve some of the stress.
Pick and choose which projects you want to DIY. Invitations might be very labor intensive especially if you are having a big wedding. You can find beautiful invitations already made on vistaprint, etc. The cost will be less if you watch for sales.
Maybe your fiance can be in charge of the honeymoon. I agree with the timeline. Grab a glass of wine, breathe, and then make a list of what needs to be done when. Tackle one or two things on the list each week. Limit yourself to a few choices for each item needed. Research 3 photobooth companies- choose one and move on.
Also, prioritize what you absolutely have to have for the wedding and what you can do without if you run out of time and/or money.
Post # 9
@aggie2010: I used to say to FI “it’s your day too..” and his reply “we all know that’s not true.” Grrr. It really is though. His say and help was very important.
ETA: I think having your fiance choosing the HM would be a great surprise for you. You two could sit down and discuss a few places to agree on. Then you’d leave the rest in his hands.
Post # 10
@StuporDuck: +1 and get a wedding planner diary… then just take one thing at a time 🙂
Post # 11
Delegate! What’s your SO doing?
Post # 12
I am with you…8 months from today for me!! I found The Knots timeline super helpful. It breaks it out by month which makes it seem a little easier to tackle.
And delegate as Mich as you can. Whatever you plan to diy, make a project night with your bridesmaid. Get some wine and order in.
Post # 13
If you can, hire a planner. If you can’t (or don’t want to), here is what I suggest:
-get references from friends and family
– make a list of the things that are stressing you the most, and tackle it. One thing at a time. It feels good once items get crossed off.
– don’t worry too much, things will work out at the end and you WILL marry your best friend 🙂
PS – I know how you feel.
Post # 14
Thanks for the advice everyone. I decided to go get the Knot Book of Lists ( I do love lists! haha) Right now my FI is in an intensive medical course and is gone most of the day and exhausted by the weekend. But he has been a dear and tries to help with whatever.
I just feel overwhelmed with all the things that need to get done, including my work..I’m also a terrible procrastinator. So bad…
Post # 15
Start big and zoom in. This was me a few weeks ago.
If you ask your wedding party, they can get started helping you organize and with making decorations and suggesting dresses/shoes.
Photographer and videographer will book quickly – get on this (then you can book engagement photos)
DJ will book quickly – get on this
Baker and Florist can do multiple weddings, so those come a bit later
Maybe you can skip Save the Dates?
Invites will probably go out February, so you have time but you’ll need to get started making them.
Post # 16
Do you have your venue yet? Alot of times they can recommend DJs, bakers, florists etc. since they work with them all the time. My venue handed me a list of people they recommend and I got a few from there. I can’t stress this enough…if you’re overwhelmed then don’t do your own invites!!! I did mine and it was a huuuge project. In the end you won’t save that much money by doing them yourself either. DIY smaller things that aren’t imperative. Good luck, & everything will be ok!